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Dysfunctional Due To Divorce

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One of the things about being an elder is that we have seen things, both good and bad. We have done things, both good and bad, and so hopefully we have learned better and we mentor others to do better.

I was watching the Bush family and their togetherness. It’s admirable.

I know that there are situations that were, and are, hard and sometimes people have no choice but to make a change.

I truly believe, having unfortunately been there, that divorce causes so much dysfunction and remarriages do too.

You have children who don’t like stepparents. It is painful on so many levels, women who are jealous of step mothers, fathers who are jealous of step fathers, children and even adult children, who play one set against the other.

Look around you and maybe in your own life, or some family member, you see constant chaos and dysfunction caused as a result of having to try to get along with people you never asked to have in your life to begin with.

Praying about this today I feel God directing me to encourage those I mentor to try and work things out in your marriages. If you have been through a divorce try your best to be kind to all involved. Don’t badmouth your ex or the new spouse. Try to show love and respect in order to put a stop to a lot of the dysfunction caused by divorce and remarriage.

Most importantly we can avoid all of this by having strong marriages. When we aren’t living for God there is no way we can stay happily married. First of all, if we are single, we should not even date unbelievers. Why? Because we walk into Satan’s territory.

Just my humble opinion, after learning the hard way. I pray none of you will have to suffer through the chaos of divorce!

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie

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The Truth About Counseling

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This may offend some so I apologize in advance. If your therapy is working for you by all means continue.

Ten years ago I began to question the Lord about why so many people would tell me they wanted Christian counseling who were already seeking counsel with a secular counselor and we’re not getting better.

God used the woman at the well to show me the counseling method he wanted me to use. He spoke to me about the woman at the well. He said, “In secular counsel you delve in a person’s childhood. Bringing up all the hurt does more harm then good. When I saw the woman at the well I didn’t do an intake. I didn’t tell her she was a relationship addict due to her childhood. Even if true it didn’t matter because she was in desperate need of something to satisfy the hole in her soul that was being filled with anything to make the loneliness go away for a time. No. I told her exactly what I discerned. I told her she had been with 5 men and wasn’t married to the man she was currently living with. I told her what was wrong and then I told her what she really needed was to drink from everlasting water.” Jesus continued, “I cut to the chase, told her what she needed and she got it. She then went and told people, “Come and meet a man who told me everything I ever did!” I want you to discern the problem through prayer, tell the person what the problem is and then what to do about it.”

So that’s what I do. Granted I could make more money by dragging things out and making clients dependent upon me. As a matter of fact very few people pay me at all. Jesus wants us healed and whole so that we can help others.

Dwelling on events from our past is depressing and at the end of the day we have to accept the past, because it cannot change, and come to peace with it. Blaming our parents, even if they deserve it, is a way of putting our pain on someone else that was probably messed up by their parents too.

Accept,forgive, move on in peace.

Do all Christian Counselor counsel the same? No. I used the model Christ gave me and I have had so many people set free that are now living depression free. Not because of who I am but because of who HE is.

The past cannot be changed but the future can be whatever we want it to be.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie

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Even Jesus Was Rejected

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So often we suffer rejection of our message about Jesus from our own families.

Even Jesus was not listened to by his own people, yet we cannot understand, often, the rejection of our message by some of those in our own families.

To quote from the Bible, ‘Now Jesus himself had pointed out that a prophet has no honour in his own country’ (John 4:44). Christ also said ‘no prophet is accepted in his home town’ (Luke 4:16-30), and ‘Only in his home town and in his own house is a prophet without honor”

Philip found Nathanael and said to him, “We have found him of whom Moses in the Torah and also the prophets wrote, Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.” Nathanael said to him, “Can anything good come out of Nazareth?”

Mark 6:11

And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear you, when ye depart thence, shake off the dust under your feet for a testimony against them. Verily I say unto you, It shall be more tolerable for Sodom and Gomorrha in the day of judgment, than for that city.

Cheer up believers. Even Jesus suffered rejection by those closest to Him.

In God’s Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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A Warning Dream?

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My absolute favorite worship song is “Way Maker” I had the most wonderful encounter with the Holy Spirit last night in a way I had not experienced before. I kept waking up off and on last night, tossing and turning, as I would wake, each time, I heard the sound of angels singing Way Maker. That is one of the most anointed worship songs I have ever heard and God was literally soaking me in it all night long!

God is up to something! I feel a great revival is coming but prior to that something is going to happen that will literally rock our world. Stay close to God and never fear because he surrounds His children with angels!

Last week I dreamed that I was hearing hail falling on the roof. It started to get louder and louder. I opened the door and saw huge rocks, even boulders, falling everywhere. In the dream I heard God say, “Close the door and stay inside!” I closed the door and as I did I felt the earth tremble and shake back and forth. I awoke in a cold sweat! It was one of those dreams where you are so glad when you awake and realize it was only a dream.

I have not received, to date, an interpretation of the dream. I do know it may not have been an actual earthquake but perhaps a warning that something is coming that will literally rock our foundation. I will wait on the Lord. As I said the other day…Stay alert.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Living Through Unimaginable Sorrow

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Turning against God, when something hurtful happens, is for some understandable. We have all had times when we suffered pain and felt as if God let us down. It was during one of those times in my life where I reached a crossroad with God. I knew I could go down a road without Him or I could decide to trust Him and go on down the road with Him. I fell to my knees and told Him, “I don’t know why you have allowed this but nevertheless you are the only one who truly loves me, unconditionally, and whether you never answer another prayer I pray again, I am going on with you!”

I remember this quote from the movie, “The Shack,” when I need to, I take it out of my bible and read it. It puts everything in perspective for me. God spoke the following…

“Just because I work incredible good out of unspeakable tragedies doesn’t mean I orchestrate the tragedies. Don’t ever assume that my using something means I caused it or that I need it to accomplish my purposes. That will only lead you to false notions about me. Grace doesn’t depend on suffering to exist, but where there is suffering you will find grace in many facets and colors.”

― William P. Young, The Shack

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Appearances

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As I was watching and listening to Steven Furtick preach online this morning the Lord started pouring some wisdom into my spirit. Steven was, surprisingly, teaching on appearances. Some people have all the right appearances. They are in church all the time. They have a lot of money, which pays for fancy vacations, new cars and fine houses. You look at them and are impressed by it all. But God is not! God is not! Because God is looking on the heart, as my sweet Sister, Ihu Oma, reminded me this morning.

All of that stuff is impressive to look at and read about but it’s nothing to God because behind the scenes these people are empty suits. It’s all about them. Sometimes I see some of them and their own families of origin are hungry and sick and they do nothing but drive on by self-centeredly in their new cars. They eat at fine restaurants while their own family’s are praising God for beans and tortillas.

Folks God is keeping score. Those folks eating beans and tortillas invite others in and share what little they have with them. They go to minimum wage jobs each day and then do their best to encourage and do for others. Their appearances are not as good as yours but their score with God is so much higher then their appearances.

There is a scripture James 2: 3-5 that warms about appearances;

…3If you lavish attention on the man in fine clothes and say, “Here is a seat of honor,” but say to the poor man “You must stand,” or, “Sit at my feet,” 4have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts? 5Listen, my beloved brothers: Has not God chosen the poor of this world to be rich in faith and to inherit the kingdom He promised those who love Him?…

God knows our hearts. He looks past the appearances to the heart. If we do something simply to tick a box and our heart is not really in it, if we do it for praise or recognition God knows that and we miss the blessings involved with it.

The Bible tells us that God loves a cheerful giver. A person that gives because they love to see others happy is much more blessed then a person who begrudgingly pays a tithe. God taught me that years ago. He said to me, “once you give don’t worry about if you get blessed or not. Just give and it will come back when you need it.” Giving is like paying into a heavenly account. God looks down sees you in need and remembers you helping someone in need and then says, “Cathie has a balance in her heavenly account! I will send a Financial blessing her way.” Some of you don’t receive because you have nothing in your heavenly savings account. Start giving sacrificially and watch your situation change for the better.

God says to do the best we can and if people judge us for not doing things their way, they will answer to God. We may look healthy on the outside and yet have a disease such as Lupus that doesn’t show. God made us, he knows our health limitations and he doesn’t expect us to be at the church every time the doors open. We need to leave the judging to God and live our own lives.

One day a woman called me for a counseling appointment. During our time of counseling she proceeded to tell me she had Fibromyalgia and several other health issues. She started crying and telling me how she was invited places and didn’t have the strength to go. Friends and family put a

lot of pressures on this woman and shamed her for not going all the time. She said, “Why can’t I go? What’s wrong with me mentally? They say it’s all in my head!” I told the woman she was not mentally ill at all. She was physically ill and it was her family and friends who had a problem and not her.

Do the best you can. The only person who we need to worry about disappointing is God.

In God’s Unconditional Love,

Cathie King Miller

My Deliverance From Depression

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God can heal depression. I know because I was miraculously delivered from a lifetime of pain caused by depression. Until God renewed my mind I would have thought I would be depressed forever….this is my story.

People have no trouble believing that someone with a physical ailment was healed. Why then is it so hard to believe that someone with depression can be healed?

I am old enough to remember those in my grandmothers generation just talked about someone who was down as having “the blues.” In my mothers generation the blues were changed into “depression” and came with a medical diagnosis and medication.

The big winner in treatment of depression is the pharmaceutical companies. They make billions off antidepressants. Some of the antidepressants cause anxiety. Now people become anxious and depressed. Some antidepressants also cause sleeping problems. Yet, antidepressants remain one of the most prescribed meds in the United States.

Anyone who has known me longer then 20 years will tell you that I had depression so severely that it was hard for me to get out of bed. I often spent days in bed with the curtains drawn. I was given one antidepressant after the other and they might have given me a little more energy, at first, but they only worked temporarily. Sooner or later I went back to being depressed.

Twelve years ago, with the help of my husband, I started researching depression. We soon began to realize it was almost impossible to find anyone who had been healed by pharmaceuticals. Around that time a drug called, Abilify was introduced. It was widely advertised on television. They said “If your antidepressant is not working you might want to add Abilify.”

Clinical depression: Depressed mood that meets the DSM-IV criteria for a depressive disorder. The term clinical depression is commonly used to describe depression that is a type of mental illness‘not a normal, temporary mood caused by life events or grieving. Notice this medical definition of clinical depression has no mention of chemically depressed;

And this one of Major Depressive Disorder;

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Major_depressive_disorder

I also want you to notice the length of time of the two major diagnoses for depression. Neither of these list “forever.” The pharmaceuticals companies do want anyone healed of depression. They want people on antidepressants forever because they are getting very wealthy from it. They can do this by brainwashing people that they are chemically unbalanced and there is nothing that they can do forever but take pills. We start to tell ourselves and others that until we believe it and it’s mind over matter. Now people are addicted to antidepressants and truly believe they must have them forever. That’s what Big Pharma wants. Don’t ever try getting off your antidepressants cold turkey. If you decide to stop taking them do so under medical supervision only.

I began to seek God through fasting and prayer because I counseled so many people who told me that they were depressed and when I asked if they were taking antidepressants they almost always said, “Yes” When I asked if they felt they were feeling any better they almost all said, “NO.”

I was sitting in front of my computer one afternoon and God spoke to my heart that he was going to heal me from depression and He was going to show me exactly how to help other people heal from depression. I have been completely healed from debilitating depression and my whole life changed. I am not going into it all in this blog post but there is a way to be set free and I have taught it to others who have also been set free from depression.

I have had more then one person tell me that they were paying someone up to “220.00” dollars an hour for therapy that wasn’t helping them. God’s method, as taught to me, will set you free and as the Word say’s, “Whom the Lord sets free is free indeed.”John 8:36.

The only failures I have seen are those who are not true believers in God and do not have a personal relationship with God. These are the scoffers who believe in traditional psychology and are sold out for pharmaceuticals.

When you are sick and tired of being depressed, God most certainly can and WILL deliver you. Depression is oppression that takes hold during a time of trauma or intense pressure. Depression is a common expression of a broken spirit. It is fed by daily dwelling in the valley of despair.

If you are ready to begin your healing process God will meet you right where you are and begin to renew your mind. Chemical imbalance can be healed through changes in diet and adding some vitamins and minerals supplements. That, and the correct tools, used faithfully, will continue your healing from depression.

God changed my life and it was such a miraculous change that my passion is to help others to do the same.

Disclaimer

I am not telling anyone to quit their antidepressants. I am not telling anyone to quit counseling or therapy. How you handle your depression is between you and God!

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My blog is always my opinion and my experience with God given instruction that I am passionate about sharing with others. Nobody is forced to subscribe and no one is forced to stay subscribed.

It’s not about me. It’s about God and the miracle experiences I have had in His presence. I want you to be set free and live successfully in Christ Jesus.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Don’t Stay Depressed Renew Your Mind

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When God taught me how to renew my mind my entire life changed for the better.

We become depressed by thinking depressing thoughts and then dwelling in those thoughts.

Sometimes we like the attention that we get from being depressed. Most of the time we just stay depressed because we don’t realize that depression is a choice.

Try this; the minute you start to think about things that depress you say STOP. Then force your mind elsewhere. Play a game, read a book, watch a funny movie. You are in charge of what you think.

If music triggers thoughts of your ex, and that’s why you are depressed, do not listen to that music. Don’t watch romantic movies and don’t drink. Alcohol is a depressant.

You can renew your mind as soon as YOU make up your mind to do so.

Pray and ask God for strength and then just go forward!

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie

When We Die

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Since I am at the age of “studying for the finals,” I have seen a lot of folks die. Some, like my sweet friend Kim, die young and go unexpectedly. Some simply die of old age. I truly have total peace regarding death. I believe that those who live in Christ have souls, which Christ said will live eternally, forever! Those who die lost, without Christ, should live it up now because for that man or woman this is the final place of living it up.

The Word of God says we sleep in Christ until he returns and at that time the dead in Christ go with Him to live with him eternally and those who are alive in Him will then go to eternal life. The others either go to hell or being dead and already residing there, depending on your interpretation of the Word. God took me to hell in a dream once. I won’t go into now but it was so horribly frightening. I saw people I knew there, it truly was a place of constant torment. I was never as happy to wake from a dream as I was from that one.

Kim’s son told me he had a dream about Kim. He said she looked young and had a peaceful, mystical look on her face. He asked her where she was and she told him, “I don’t know but I like it here!” I was so encouraged by that. Her soul is simply resting in peace until Jesus returns for us! What a wonderful confirmation of the Word of God!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

God Get Me Out Of Here!

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I often feel like Jonah. I can relate to him standing on the shore of Nineveh and looking at all the evil around him and saying, “God get them all!” To be fair Nineveh was an awful place to be. Evil was everywhere and don’t forget that Nineveh was the home of the Tower of Babel.

When we serve God He often uses us just where we are, in the belly of the beast. He keeps us there until, like Jonah, we repent and decide to do things God’s way.

Maybe you and I feel like we are wanting to escape our Nineveh today. Maybe we have bill collectors, troublemakers, our stressful jobs, sicknesses, family and Satan working through these very people that are all around us. In the natural, like Jonah, we are telling God, “Get me out of here let me escape to another town, another country, ANYWHERE God but here!”

Yet, like Jonah, God has a job for us to do in the midst of all these troubles. He wants us to witness to these people by showing them that through faith in the living God things can be better just where we are, right in the place we want so badly to escape.

When nothing is moving forward for you and you feel stuck consider the fact that God has a job to do, through YOU, right where you are. Once that job, whatever it is, is complete, then and only then, will God move you out.

So what can you do? Surrender. Yes, it’s that easy. Decide that, like Jonah, the quicker you surrender your will to His will, the quicker God will move you out of the current unpleasant situation you are in.

I often compare being in unpleasant situations to a caught fish, struggling to try and get off the hook the fish wildly trashes about. It’s all to no avail because that fish is not getting off that hook until the fisherman takes him off.

Surrender, be still and relax. You will be removed from these people and the unpleasant situation when God wants you to be removed. Be okay with that by living in the moment.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie