Are People From Your Past Trying To Destroy Your Life?

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Phillipians 3:13-14

Brothers and Sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.

Forgetting what is behind, simply means forgetting the past and straining towards what is ahead simply means I go forward to what God has for me to do. The life God has planned for us has nothing to do with our past.

I recently got a little depressed. Because I know God has completely healed me of depression I begin to pray about it and asked God for knowledge and wisdom to see what was going on.

God began to teach me something that I now would like to teach you.

Do you have people, possibly family, who remembers all the ugliness of your past and still like to torture you over it. They like to use it against you and often try to remind others of it to get them to think less of you too. Sometimes they do it really covertly. Perhaps in a room full of people they like to say how proud they are of you because you no longer do this, that or the other. You cringe. You really didn’t want those particular people to know about your past. If you did you would have mentioned it yourself. Yes, you are blessed that God set you free but that is the past and you want to leave it there because people begin to then associate what they know about your past, with you, and often NOT what God is doing now through you.

It’s especially upsetting when these family members are unsaved and still have all kinds of things going on in their lives that God doesn’t approve of.

I have an interesting testimony in that I was saved and then backslid terribly before I finally totally committed to the Lord almost 20 years ago.

Recently I came to the knowledge that a person in my family has almost single handedly destroyed my relationship with just about everyone in my family of origin. Now this person has not spoken to me in over 17 years. The person has no idea what my life is like, the peaceful life I spend with the Lord, and the fact that I counsel and teach others to also find peace in God, is not even known by this person. I am not exactly sure what I did to make this person despise me, I am not even sure the person knows. The very fact that they can still hurt me with these things can only mean one thing. They are operating under the influence of a demonic spirit. I don’t think they realize that, but thats what it is.

This Winter someone else in my family starting spending time with this man and the next thing you know I began to feel under attack. I was being attacked in my emotions and frankly in my physical health.

It took a while before I realized I was under an attack. Studying this the Lord brought me step by step to what He wanted to show me.

First of all when we go through things in our live’s that are things that open doors to demonic oppression we create situations that allow Satan to be present. When we completely come away from these things and totally commit our lives to God we need to also go through a time a repentance and restoration. What I didn’t realize completely is that there are some people from our pasts that we cannot let back into our lives until they are also totally committed to Christ. Unfortunately these people are often family.

Some people do not want to ever except the fact that a born again friend or family member has changed. To do so would mess up the whole story of their life that they have used to garner self-pity regarding their own lives. People will say, “But you said this that or the other! I thought this person did this, that or the other” They are not willing or wanting to have Christ in their own life. You changing proves it can be done and they don’t want to surrender. They are still in bondage to the sin in their life and they are not ready, maybe they will never be, to get rid of it.

My depression was coming from this person reminding me of things that God says in the Word He has totally forgotten. This person was saying things about me that are not true. I finally realized, as hurtful as it is and as much as I love the person, there is no longer room in my life for someone who finds joy in hurting me.

The past, and most of the people we were involved with there, needs to be just that PAST.

We cannot allow relationship with people who are determined to hate us. It doesn’t matter who they are. Any person who is condescending to us or constantly brings up the past is doing the devils work and needs to go.

Who does God say we are? Thats what matters. Any person with the Spirit of God in them will realize that what this person says is no longer true. What do we need to have fellowship with the darkness for anyway? LET THEM GO.

Pray for the soul-tie with that person to be broken. Pray for God’s cleansing LIGHT to be poured over the part of your body that is physically hurting over the mental anguish this person has caused and then LET THEM GO.

If you are feeling out of sorts, depressed and hopeless, examine your life. Who from your past is still in it? Anything we once had in common with the unsaved is a demon. Friendship with that person, or people who still befriend that person, is not what God wants for us. Why would a true friend, a true Christian, want to associate with someone who puts you down? These people are two-faced. They will keep you around to pray for them or lift them up when they hit rock bottom, which they constantly do.

Watch closely over who you have let in your life. These people are often the cause of your bad feelings. You don’t need them, and the demonic activity they bring with them. Satan uses your kind heart against you. These people need to be left to their own devices. Only when they are truly at the bottom will they come to Christ.

In His Unconditional Love,
Cathie Miller

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Don’t Lose Hope!

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“For I know the thoughts I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and hope!” Jeremiah 29:11

Recently I watched a video in which the woman was talking about a man she had ministered too. She said, “He walked away with renewed hope.”

I got to thinking about that. Beloved, I truly believe that when you lose hope it’s over. Hope is the thing that goes along with our gift of faith. We hope that things will get better or that something will happen to answer our prayer needs and then that hope stirs up our faith and we begin to feel so much better.

The Word says the following; “Hope deferred makes the heart sick,
    but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.” Proverbs 13:12

Years ago I would look at some situation and in the natural I would think, “Oh, dear Lord this situation is not good! What do I do Lord, what to I say to this person? I don’t want to lie, Father. What do I tell them?” God gently spoke to my Spirit, “Daughter, you are wrong. THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE! What you see as an impossibility is an opportunity to witness to large groups of people who will be astounded when I miraculously answer this prayer! Don’t ever say that again.”

So, I learned to speak hope into people. I learned to be a possibility thinker. When I counsel people they are desperate for just a glimmer of hope, just a Word letting them know that things can and will get better if they only keep the faith.

The problem with a lot of us is that we think in the natural. We look at something and our minds start to figure out what God needs to do to change the situation. Then we start to pray like this, “Dear God please let Sue talk to my boss and tell her that I need a raise.” Instead God works in mysterious ways and he doesn’t need anybody to tell him how to fix a situation. He has ways that our little human brains have not even thought of.

Now when we need answers, He stands ready to guide us. All we need do is ask and then wait for him to direct us.

I have had God tell me to go into car dealerships without a dime for a down payment and bad credit and as I obeyed him, as crazy as it sounds, I walked out with a very nice car. God had sent angels before me to prepare the way. Everything just simply fell into place. When I walked down the hall to see the sales manager I heard Christian music playing. I begin to get excited and I thought “What should I tell him Father?” God said, “Tell him the truth.” So I did. I laid my whole ugly story out in front of him, thinking he would say, “Well, I am so sorry but I can’t help you!” Instead he said, “I know what you are going through. The same thing happened to me.”

Instead of using your time calling all your Christian friends to pray, why waste your time? You are a child of God. You have the spirit dwelling inside you. Pray and seek an answer from God and then when you feel He is directing you in a certain way do what he tells you to do and DO NOT ask anyone else by saying something like this, “Do you think I heard from God when he told me, “this or that?” Because if your friend doesn’t have your level of faith they will say, “You are nuts, why would God tell you to walk into a car dealership without any money and bad credit and try to buy a car!” But we walk by faith not sight. God honors hope and faith. Don’t second guess him just do what he tells you.

Right now it’s Christmas and a whole lot of you are worried sick about how you are going to get gifts for your children and have a family dinner. I have been in that very place, beloved. The thing to do is to get into prayer and praise and wait on the Lord. He is going to direct you. You will go to a store and just what you need will be on sale, you might win something, something might just appear on your doorstep. Be open and be obedient and then wait on God. Do not lose hope. God inhabits(dwells within) our praises. He will either send us what we need or give us supernatural peace in the midst of our situation.

“But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord,
    whose confidence is in him.
8 They will be like a tree planted by the water
    that sends out its roots by the stream.
It does not fear when heat comes;
    its leaves are always green.
It has no worries in a year of drought
    and never fails to bear fruit.” Jeremiah 17:7-8

Negative talk, and a lack of belief in God’s supernatural miracles, kills hope and squashes faith. You get your faith up by repeating faith scriptures. When God then answers your prayers it increases your faith.

Quit feeling anxious and sorry for yourself. Start praying and praising and believing for a miracle. Tell God to touch the heart of someone who can help you in whatever way God has for you to be helped. Help someone else in the midst of your need and God will help you.

Tell God, “I do not know how you can do this, but I know you will. I rest in your presence and put my worries here at the foot of your cross.”

Do not lose hope. It may be all you have right now but if you are still able to hope you will be helped by the God who owns the cattle on a thousand hills! Nothing is too much for the God who parted the Red Sea! Nothing.

In His Unconditional Love,
Cathie
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Appearances

As I was watching and listening to Steven Furtick preach online this morning the Lord started pouring some wisdom into my spirit. Steven was, surprisingly, teaching on appearances. Some people have all the right appearances. They are in church all the time. They have a lot of money, which pays for fancy vacations, new cars and fine houses. You look at them and are impressed by it all. But God is not! God is not! Because God is looking on the heart, as my sweet Sister, Ihu Oma, reminded me this morning.

All of that stuff is impressive to look at and read about but it’s nothing to God because behind the scenes these people are empty suits. It’s all about them. Sometimes I see some of them and their own families of origin are hungry and sick and they do nothing but drive on by self-centeredly in their new cars. They eat at fine restaurants while their own family’s are praising God for beans and tortillas.

Folks God is keeping score. Those folks eating beans and tortillas invite others in and share what little they have with them. They go to minimum wage jobs each day and then do their best to encourage and do for others. Their appearances are not as good as yours but their score with God is so much higher then their appearances.

There is a scripture James 2: 3-5 that warms about appearances;

…3If you lavish attention on the man in fine clothes and say, “Here is a seat of honor,” but say to the poor man “You must stand,” or, “Sit at my feet,” 4have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts? 5Listen, my beloved brothers: Has not God chosen the poor of this world to be rich in faith and to inherit the kingdom He promised those who love Him?…

God knows our hearts. He looks past the appearances to the heart. If we do something simply to tick a box and our heart is not really in it, if we do it for praise or recognition God knows that and we miss the blessings involved with it.

The Bible tells us that God loves a cheerful giver. A person that gives because they love to see others happy is much more blessed then a person who begrudgingly pays a tithe. God taught me that years ago. He said to me, “once you give don’t worry about if you get blessed or not. Just give and it will come back when you need it.” Giving is like paying into a heavenly account. God looks down sees you in need and remembers you helping someone in need and then says, “Cathie has a balance in her heavenly account! I will send a Financial blessing her way.” Some of you don’t receive because you have nothing in your heavenly savings account. Start giving sacrificially and watch your situation change for the better.

God says to do the best we can and if people judge us for not doing things their way, they will answer to God. We may look healthy on the outside and yet have a disease such as Lupus that doesn’t show. God made us, he knows our health limitations and he doesn’t expect us to be at the church every time the doors open. We need to leave the judging to God and live our own lives.

One day a woman called me for a counseling appointment. During our time of counseling she proceeded to tell me she had Fibromyalgia and several other health issues. She started crying and telling me how she was invited places and didn’t have the strength to go. Friends and family put a

lot of pressures on this woman and shamed her for not going all the time. She said, “Why can’t I go? What’s wrong with me mentally? They say it’s all in my head!” I told the woman she was not mentally ill at all. She was physically ill and it was her family and friends who had a problem and not her.

Do the best you can. The only person who we need to worry about disappointing is God.

In God’s Unconditional Love,

Cathie King Miller

Dealing With Troublemakers

“ A dishonest man spreads strife.”

We all know them. They are troublemakers. Troublemakers are people who are so miserable in their own life that the only thing that makes them happy is starting trouble between other people, stirring the pot, and then sitting back and gleefully watching the outcome of the trouble they created.

It has taken me awhile but I have recently discovered a major troublemaker in my circle of friends and family. I had noticed that every single person that this person and I know in common suddenly stops talking to me. When, to the best of my knowledge, I had done nothing to any of these people to upset them I prayed about it and God revealed to me the source of the trouble was one person. One person who I have had discernment about for sometime. One person who was at one time close to God but through sexual addictions has opened a door to every demonic spirit one can imagine. Several years ago the person had pictures online of them in church. Then, apparently, they got involved with a bad person or two and you can see that Satan has entered their life now and as they say, “in spades.”

Because most Christians are sensitive people, when we don’t have on the armor of God, when we don’t have the gift of discernment in knowing how to best deal with these troublemakers, they can easily get under our skin, disrupting our home and lives, pulling us into their lion’s den.

All it takes is one Satan filled demon from hell to turn your whole office, family and or friends against you.

At first, when you are the target, you think as a Christian that you can simply pray for them and be kind to them and they will change their ways. I considered that, and frankly I have been praying for the person for years. I prayed for them long before their jealousy of my life led them to try and destroy my ministry and my life.

Upon studying the Bible, regarding the way Jesus handled trouble makers, I came to the knowledge that Jesus used diverse ways in handling troublemakers. Some times he confronted them with anger and outrage while telling followers to pray for these people.

You can try ignoring them but most of them, I have found, become further upset and then do anything they can to get your attention.

I honestly believe the best way to handle them is to go to the people who no longer speak to you and tell them what you suspect the person, the troublemaker, of doing. Their favorite tactic is to tell someone you said something about them. Something hurtful. You can then try and set the record straight. Unfortunately these troublemakers are very skilled at what they do and sometimes the offended friend will NOT believe you.

To my friends in ministry, of any type, I want to warn you of something some of you already know and that is the fact that ministry can be very lonely. We have very few friends because of the anointing Christ has on our lives. Other Christians, out of jealousy, look for something to accuse you of. If you, being human, have a hard day and share that with a friend, the next thing you know it’s used against you. Be very careful of who you share with!

Troublemakers need to be exposed. I have found, as I fast and pray about the situation, God reveals to me how to deal with the problem. He also starts to out the troublemakers to others who then begin to see the truth.

You want to give a troublemaker as little ammunition against you as possible so, after praying, God may tell you to unfollow them on FB, and cut them out of your life. If you have to work with them plead the blood of Jesus over yourself anytime you come into contact with them. Ask God to turn the arrows they are attacking you with right back onto them. God once, during prayer, gave me a vision of a shield of armor surrounding me, as a circular fence. Every time the troublemaker shot malicious arrows my way they bounced off the shield of armor and went back onto the troublemaker.

Do not, and I know it’s so hard, get anxious about a troublemaker. Remember, and quote often, the following scripture;

“Greater is He who is within ME then he who is in the world.” 1 John 4:4.

Lastly, the Word tells us to ignore troublemakers. Set things straight with others, if you can, and then simply try to not think of it all the time. Stop anxiety thoughts and place your mind elsewhere. Then give it to God and try to forgive them, through Christ, who has forgiven you and me of so very much!

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. – James 4:7

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Dead Churches Spawn Dead Christians

Our first impression of Christianity begins at home. Some people had parents who argued all the way to church and started praising God the minute they opened the door to the church, sat through the sermon and started arguing again the minute they got in the car to go home. Some people had supposedly Christian parents who used drugs and abused alcohol. Some people had parents who had affairs while married and their children knew it. So when people saw hypocrites, first hand, it turned them against God. They believe all Christians are hypocrites because of what they saw at home.

Let me just say the minute you leave home, and are on your own, YOU are responsible for your relationship with God not your parents.

If the Church your family of origin went to spawned half baked Christians then it stands to reason that’s not the church for victorious Christians. Close that door and find an on fire for the Lord church!

Christianity is not boring when you find the right church with people who live God all through the week and not just Sunday. These people get together for a whole lot of fun things, football games, dinner, Valentine’s Day. These people study the Bible together and counsel one another when they have hard times!

You will never grow in a church where people do what they please and take God along. God’s rules for us does not mean he is an old meanie. I have learned his rules are to help me live a successful and peaceful life. The Bible is a guidebook for successful living.

Tomorrow is Sunday find a couple of on fire churches and visit one each Sunday until you find one that feels like home. Don’t stay stuck in dead churches and then expect your life to change for the better!

Just saying…..

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

He Wants You To Stand Still

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You think you have a problem today? How about this one?

The Israelites were in a world of hurt. They had the Red Sea in front of them and Pharaohs Egyptian Army in back of them.

Exodus 14:10-14 10And when Pharaoh drew nigh, the children of Israel lifted up their eyes, and, behold, the Egyptians marched after them; and they were sore afraid: and the children of Israel cried out unto the LORD. 11And they said unto Moses, Because there were no graves in Egypt, hast thou taken us away to die in the wilderness? wherefore hast thou dealt thus with us, to carry us forth out of Egypt? 12Is not this the word that we did tell thee in Egypt, saying, Let us alone, that we may serve the Egyptians? For it had been better for us to serve the Egyptians, than that we should die in the wilderness. 13And Moses said unto the people, Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the LORD, which he will show to you to day: for the Egyptians whom ye have seen to day, ye shall see them again no more for ever. 14The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.

The Lord wants you to do the same thing that he told the Israelites to do STAND STILL THE LORD SHALL FIGHT FOR YOU HOLD YOUR PEACE.

But standing still sounds like doing nothing to most of us. We rush around, we wring our hands and we say, “Lord, what am I going to do?” We all get that manipulative Jezebel spirit on us every now and then. We think we have to figure it out. When we cannot do that we call first one friend and then another and pour out our problems hoping that they will help us.

The Word of God tells us the following; I lift up my eyes to the mountains- where does my help come from? 2My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth. Psalm 121:1-2

Our help comes from God. Not from mom and dad, not from our best friend, but from GOD.

I was doing a bible study on “standing still” today. It is amazing how many times, in so many verses of the bible, God tells us to stand still.

“Now then, stand still and see this great thing the LORD is about to do before your eyes!” 1 Samuel 12:16

“Be still, and know that I [am] God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.” Psalms 46:10

“Ye shall not need to fight in this battle: set yourselves, stand ye still, and see the salvation of the Lord with you, O Judah and Jerusalem: fear not, nor be dismayed; tomorrow go out against them: for the Lord will be with you.” 2 Chronicles 20-17

You may be thinking, “I am going to do this, or I am going to do that!” God is saying to you today beloved, STAND STILL.

God is not a man that EVER lies. He will do this for you and do it in a way you may never have thought of and from the hand of someone whom you never imagined blessing you.

Calm yourself. Sit down, take a deep breath in and hold it to the count of five, and then release it to the count of 5. Then say, “I am standing still and I am quiet while God solves this problem for me. I relax in peace because I belong to God and He is working this out for me now! I may not see Him at work but I knowHe is because His Word says He is.” Then relax. When the worry thoughts come back to you again, courtesy of the tormentor of your soul, do the same exact thing.

God has this! Send me an email with a miracle report so we can encourage others!

Stand STILL.

In His Unconditional Love,
Cathie

What Are Your Sin Prejudices?

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I notice that a whole lot of Christian have what I call “Sin Prejudices.”

 

I know that I myself have them.

 

You may be wondering what I am talking about. Well, let me explain.

 

Some people judge others even though we are told in the Bible, “Judge not lest you be judged.”

 

We Christians have certain things that might bother one person more then it does the other person.

 

While sitting in a restaurant once, with a dear Christian friend of mine, a woman walked past our table with an extremely short dress on that was also low cut and left very little to the imagination. My friend said to me, “That woman goes to our church. I cannot believe that she dresses like that and calls herself a Christian.” Now I understood where this woman was coming from because there were probably people in the church trying to overcome a porn addiction and this woman’s lack of modesty was only making it harder for them to do so. Church is not the place to dress like that.

 

There are other things too. There are people who are publically involved in sex sin, people who have terrible tempers, people who constantly talk about other people, people into porn, people whose children are holy terrors, people who still dabble in drugs and drink too much alcohol, gossips, people who put pictures of themselves half-dressed on FB and completely ignore the fact that there are scriptures about modesty.

 

If I didn’t hit your favorite Christian prejudice I am sorry, because unfortunately there are a lot of things we Christians judge.

 

I know that the bible tells us we are to judge, using righteous judgment. But honestly, none of us walk on water and a whole lot of these things are better off left in God’s hands.

 

I wrestle with certain prejudices myself. Those times when I say to God, “How can this person or that person really believe that they are saved and still participate in those things?”

 

I have had people bring up things, people and situations in my life, especially the past, and ask how I can consider myself a Christian and allow this or that in my family.

 

I started to pray for God to blind my eyes from some of the things I see and to help me to give them to Him. Frankly, I was really struggling with some of it.

 

One day as I was praying God downloaded the following into my spirit; “Cathie, what if you look at it this way, haven’t I spoken to you in my Word that the most important thing is love and yet it’s hard to love when you judge.” Then He said something that changed my judgment habit. He said, “What if that person is a test that I send to see if you really can love unconditionally? The one thing you judge the harshest, being unable to love folks just like they are, could just be the one thing that breaks my heart about you. You can’t just love the mature Christians; those who really upset you are your test. If you cannot get to the point where you love all, regardless of their weaknesses, then you will never get to where I want you to be. I want you to love everyone just as they are. Unconditionally.

 

It takes surrender, complete surrender to ego, pride and especially self-righteousness. It doesn’t happen just once either. We have to do it over and over and over again.

 

There are ways to handle things. The bible speaks about taking a church member, who continues to bring ridicule on the church, and speaking to them with a few other members of the church. In other words not giving up on them immediately. Then if they continue in rebellion they must leave the church. BUT that is only the job of a pastor and church elders. It’s not my job and probably not yours. We are told to pray about it, take it to the Pastor and then let it go into their hands.

 

I truly believe that we must learn to love unconditionally. Hate never brought one soul to Christ. Not one. Rejection, and many other things that we don’t know about, happen daily in a person’s life. You cannot reject them and expect them to see anything different in us then they see in the worldly that are not saved.

 

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

When Someone You Care For Disappoints You

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I hate it when someone I believe in disappoints me. You work with someone, pray for someone, study the Word with him or her, and counsel him or her and then when you least expect it they are back in the gutter of life. We so expected that something we said would have stuck. We hoped and prayed that God would have given them a realization, like He did for some of us, that He hung on a cross, bloody and beaten to shreds, because of His deep love for us. We hoped that realization would have taken root and kept them strong for Jesus. Perhaps it wasn’t their time, or perhaps they were never really saved and just playing a game for what they could get out of it.

I am not saying that we shouldn’t be expectant. Of course we should always expect the best from those we loved. But we must remember that they are human beings, with imperfection, just like we all are.

Jesus expected his disciples to do their best. When they fell asleep the night before his crucifixion and left him alone, he felt awful, “He said to them, “Could you not stay awake with me?” But He knew that they were who they were. They were men in suits of flesh. The soul was willing but their flesh was weak.

God has used situations where people have let me down in many ways. First He has taught me that the perfect friend, pastor, spouse and relative does not exist. He has used these times of disappointment for me to cling even closer to Him.

This I know without a doubt. Jesus does not disappoint us. He is who He says He is, and He does what He says He will do.

As Christians the Holy Spirit is always with us to comfort us when a human being lets us down. He is there; too, to give us enough strength to get through situations by ourselves when someone we counted on for help has let us down.

So many people miss the boat when it comes to helping others. We are, as believers, to be reaching out to others, not constantly looking for someone to help us.

We have to keep focused on the good times Jesus promised us. We also have to be realistic. I don’t care who you are there will be hard times in your life and unpleasant people who are disagreeable. We should not quit pouring into the lives of others just because of a few who disappoint us.

People who disappoint us teach us how to be merciful. Can you imagine how many times you and I have disappointed God? Where would we be without His mercy and forgiveness for those times when we let God down?

So today, as I sense some folks are dealing with disappointment in relying on others who have let them down, lift your head up and don’t let it get you down.

God will bring others into your life that you will not be disappointed in. He will bring others who will be there for you through thick and thin.

Be glad you found out who the person that disappointed you really is. They are not the person they pretend to be. God is removing them from your life. Don’t hold on to them. Release them now so that God can bring people into your life that appreciate you and love you JUST AS YOU ARE!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Are So-Called Friends Becoming A Burden?

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“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24

 

Do you have a lot of friends?  Are they real friends, friends that will quit what they are doing and come running when you are in need?

 

It’s wonderful to have friends that are loyal to you, but how about you? Is it all about you or do you take time to ask someone “How are you doing?” prior to launching into a conversation regarding all your troubles?

 

If you are only concerned with your own problems you will not be able to keep many friends in life. Sooner or later we recognize, “Takers” because they take, take and take from us but are never there for us.

 

I find it interesting that when we finally decide we no longer want these takers in our lives that they act as if they don’t have a clue as to why they lost our friendship. They cannot stand the fact that they no longer have someone around to use as an emotional scapegoat. They then get paranoid,about all the things you know about them, and set out to start turning their friends and family member against you.

 

Isn’t it amazing that people no longer talk to you because of the evilness of other people? I used to let it bother me, but not anymore. At my age, I let it go. I try to ignore them. I go on with my life.

 

These people need to develop a relationship with Jesus. I have found that Jesus never leaves us and never forsakes us. Jesus is there for us and is on “duty” for us 24/7.

 

If you find yourself losing friends take your own inventory. Do you invest as much time into that friend as they invest into you? If not you need to change. If you cannot quit telling your problems to someone then get a counselor. As counselors we break the law by sharing the secrets of those we have counseled with.

 

Once you try to ignore these people they then send their “Flying Monkeys” after you.” I was shocked one day when an ex friends mother attacked me online as I made a comment on someone’s FB page. It was mean, it was cruel and not the truth. She had been listening to my “ex” friend and believed everything that she had heard. I then blocked them both. She was telling someone that I was not a “real” friend. What was sad about that was that I had given the woman’s grandson money when he was in need. I guess she had forgotten about that.

 

Sometimes you get disappointed with a friend. If it’s a one-time thing, talk it out and don’t let it break your friendship. But if it continues to happen then let the person go. We become like those we spend the most time with. Unless you want to become a whiner too, it’s best to let the person go. Pray for them, but let them go. Life is too short to be burdened with someone else’s problems daily. You too have problems and if they continue to dump on you don’t be surprised if you find yourself getting depressed, and angry, for no apparent reason. Like sponges we absorb a lot of other people’s emotions.

 

Find positive, happy people who love God. Find people who will pray for you when you need it. Find people who call you occasionally and ask you, “How are you doing, I was thinking about you!”

 

If you are anxious and stressed today, look around you. It might not be you but someone whom you are spending a lot of time with that is draining you. These people are so low on energy that they literally drain those around them. It’s not always you, but instead those who you surround yourself with.

 

In God’s Unconditional Love,

Cathie