When God taught me how to renew my mind my entire life changed for the better.
We become depressed by thinking depressing thoughts and then dwelling in those thoughts.
Sometimes we like the attention that we get from being depressed. Most of the time we just stay depressed because we don’t realize that depression is a choice.
Try this; the minute you start to think about things that depress you say STOP. Then force your mind elsewhere. Play a game, read a book, watch a funny movie. You are in charge of what you think.
If music triggers thoughts of your ex, and that’s why you are depressed, do not listen to that music. Don’t watch romantic movies and don’t drink. Alcohol is a depressant.
You can renew your mind as soon as YOU make up your mind to do so.
Pray and ask God for strength and then just go forward!
In His Unconditional Love
Cathie
Wisdom Of The Cooing Dove 
Perhaps you don’t really understand depression? Do what works for you but don’t presume what depression is like for others.
Perhaps you don’t understand the power of the living breathing God? You are welcomed to stay depressed but I thank God daily for delivering me from the hell of the depression I had for the majority of my life. I have been successfully helping clients try another way for the last 10 years. I understand how you feel though Kate, I would have felt the same way years ago. God Bless! Cathie