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About Prayer Answers

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Our prayers MUST line up with the Word of God. For instance, If one of the Ten Commandments is “Thou shall not commit adultery,” and you are praying for a man or woman of God to leave their spouse and marry you, your thinking is wrong and God will not give you someone else’s spouse.

If our prayers line up with the Word of God then we have to continue to have faith that God will answer those prayers. Nothing can stop them. I literally pray God’s Word over the desires of my heart because I know God will honor his Word when the time is right.

Sometimes people get mad at God for not giving them something that they prayed for that doesn’t now,or never will,line up with God’s will.

God, like you and I, wants the best for his kids. His best for us is not the devil worshipping unbeliever no matter how good looking we think they are.

Don’t get mad at God for not giving you something that will destroy you in the end!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Dead Churches Spawn Dead Christians

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Our first impression of Christianity begins at home. Some people had parents who argued all the way to church and started praising God the minute they opened the door to the church, sat through the sermon and started arguing again the minute they got in the car to go home. Some people had supposedly Christian parents who used drugs and abused alcohol. Some people had parents who had affairs while married and their children knew it. So when people saw hypocrites, first hand, it turned them against God. They believe all Christians are hypocrites because of what they saw at home.

Let me just say the minute you leave home, and are on your own, YOU are responsible for your relationship with God not your parents.

If the Church your family of origin went to spawned half baked Christians then it stands to reason that’s not the church for victorious Christians. Close that door and find an on fire for the Lord church!

Christianity is not boring when you find the right church with people who live God all through the week and not just Sunday. These people get together for a whole lot of fun things, football games, dinner, Valentine’s Day. These people study the Bible together and counsel one another when they have hard times!

You will never grow in a church where people do what they please and take God along. God’s rules for us does not mean he is an old meanie. I have learned his rules are to help me live a successful and peaceful life. The Bible is a guidebook for successful living.

Tomorrow is Sunday find a couple of on fire churches and visit one each Sunday until you find one that feels like home. Don’t stay stuck in dead churches and then expect your life to change for the better!

Just saying…..

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

The Importance Of Respecting Elders In The Faith

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Christian’s, if someone we know is older in the faith, and still loves and obeys God, then maybe we do ourselves a disservice when we don’t listen to what they say regarding God and keeping the faith.

Everyone who is saved will reach a crossroads experience at least once. That’s a place where we pray about something and it doesn’t turn out like we want it to turn out. During these times some will take the path of trusting God and others, because of free will, take the path away from God and back into the world.

Please understand that the elder saints have been through the crossroad experience and passed the test. They have been taught in the crucible of fire and passed the tests there. This is not to say they will not continue to be tested while in these suits of flesh, because we will all be tested until the day Christ comes to take us home.

When you are remodeling your home and need advice about plumbing, let’s say, do you go to someone who is an apprentice or the man who has been a plumber for twenty years?

Every time in my life when I have puffed myself up with pride and thought that I knew more then my elders in the Lord, who have been around longer, or think I am wiser then them because I have more anointing, I have fallen flat on my face.

No one will go further then you without God’s permission. God chooses to showcase some and often times leaves others, with just as much favor, in the background. I have learned that He is God and, as tempting as it is at times, I don’t question him.

When we first start out in our chosen profession we think we have “arrived.” Twenty years, or more, down the road we realize that we learned the most through on the job training, not education.

We have to stay humble and have a teachable spirit. The whole Christian life consists of learning and teaching, learning and teaching, learning and teaching.

Who are we to grieve the spirit by disregarding the teaching of our elders? Instead of calling a friend when we have a problem we should first take it to God, and then discuss it with someone older in the Lord.

“Likewise, you who are younger, be subject to the elders. Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” 1 Peter 5:5

I said all that to say this, the help we need is there from experienced elders, we simply have to ask. The wisdom you seek is hidden in little ministries that are not flashy and don’t seek attention. Pray for God to direct you to an elder Christian and pray to have a teachable spirit.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

http://www.helpforgodshurtingpeople.com

Those Who Reject God And His People

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“Do not cast your pearls before swine. Do not waste good things on people who will not appreciate them. This proverb is adapted from a saying of Jesus from the Gospels, “Cast not pearls before swine.” Jesus appears to be warning his disciples to preach only before receptive audiences.”

Earlier this year the Lord spoke to my heart to share something with someone who is saved but obviously backslidden. As I started to do that she looked me right in the eye and walked away and out of the room.

I felt bad because I realized it wasn’t just me she was rejecting but God. When she looked me in the eye I saw not her but a demon operating through her.

I decided at that time that she made a choice. Not only to be disrespectful to me but, much more importantly, to God.

So we have to remember that some people are not EVER going to be receptive to the truth. Some people will have to go through more before they cry out to God to “save me, Father!” And since we don’t know which way it will go we must shake the dust from our feet and move on to where we are needed.

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“Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces. Matthew 7:6

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

http://www.helpforgodshurtingpeople.com

He’s Your Ride Or Die God

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“This is what the Lord says: “When seventy years are completed for Babylon, I will come to you and fulfill my good promise to bring you back to this place. 11For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity.b I will gather you from all the nations and places where I have banished you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back to the place from which I carried you into exile.” Jeremiah 29:10-14
Sometimes our lives make absolutely no sense at all. We have a vision of what we want our lives to look like but then things happen that were not in our script. Things like job lay offs, illnesses, tragedies, misunderstandings and betrayals. People come and people go unexpectedly and suddenly we are in the middle of a life we hadn’t planned on having.

In my life I have learned that these changes, these life-events, force us to face our vulnerabilities. Some of these changes we face in life make us realize that we are not perfect and we can’t do things the way we want to do them anymore.

If you are lucky you will have one or two “ride or die” friends that stick by you during these unexpected life changes. But truthfully those friends are rare. There is an old song with a line in it that goes, “Nobody wants you when you are down and out.” Maybe like me you found that out too.

I had one person I considered a ride or die friend, but then I found out she had told things about my life, and problems, to her whole family. As a matter of fact some of them listened in to our phone conversations. That betrayal was painful, but in the long run it only served to bring me closer to God and left her wondering why I no longer wanted to be her friend.

Like me you may have found that God is the only person who you can go to and be honest with about your feelings that will not betray you and derive pleasure from your downfall.

When, due to my husband’s catastrophic illness, we lost our entire savings our life changed in so many ways. Losing our life savings, due to all the things that come along with health challenges that health insurance just doesn’t cover, caused life changes in our living style. We lived in a beautiful 3,000 square foot home at the time, and then, when that got too expensive we leased a home to buy it because our credit was ruined too. We lost that home due to a breach of contract by the crazy owner, and ended up in a small home that we were thankful to have. At one time it looked as if we would be living in our car.

Instead of offering actual help many people either ignored us, gossiped about us, or offered to pray for us. Yes, the prayer is much needed but showing up and just helping works well too. Many times people in life crisis are too depressed to even get dressed so understand that too!

I could go on and on but I know that many of you reading this could tell your own stories. You are here, but holding on to your faith in God like a titanic survivor holding onto a life raft.

Don’t try to make much sense of it because I have found that do to that is a horrible waster of time and brings in a horrible sense of self-pity. You start thinking about one thing that is wrong and then that cascades into a series of thinking of everything else that went wrong. Before you know it you are in bed, can’t get up or get dressed and horribly depressed.

As a counselor I have heard many tales of people trying to cope with life changes in bizarre ways. My favorite by far is the one of a woman whose marriage fail completely apart a week after her husband had sent her a dozen roses at work for her birthday. After bragging to everyone at work about how blessed she was to have him she found out he was not only involved with another woman but the woman was pregnant with his child. She went to the store and bought a case of Jiffy Peanut Butter and sat in bed with a spoon eating it and throwing the empty jars on the floor. When she finally let her mother into the house her mother saw the trail of empty peanut butter jars and spoons and said, “Honey, you have to snap out of this.” Yes, we both laughed about it. However, if you have ever been anywhere close to devastated in life, you can certainly understand.

Until I really experienced it myself I never knew the desperation behind the statement, “What am I going to do now!”

I want you to know that there is hope, you will make it. You don’t think so, but you will. You will come out the other side of this much a much better person then you were before. You will survive.

The key is to come to terms with the problem. Realize it won’t change but that’s okay you ARE GOING TO MAKE IT. Once you can quit feeling sorry for yourself you simple get up, shower, dress and set about to create a new story of your life. In this story you are the heroine that overcomes. You will put one foot in front of the other and survive and learn so much in doing so. One step at a time and one day at a time. You are fierce and you are strong. You are not going to let whatever broke you destroy you. Against all odds you are going to make a new, beautiful life for yourself. The only ones who don’t make it, truthfully, are the ones who don’t accept the truth and determine to move on.

You are going to have to do that anyway, so why not today! Change your story, write a new script. In this story you, like Scarlett O’Hara in Gone With The Wind, make up your mind that as God is your witness you will never be destroyed like this again! You are a survivor. Life messed with the wrong person!

Pray and ask God to help you. He will, He is just waiting for you to get up first. When he healed the man outside of the waters of Bethesda he said to the man, “Get up. Take your mat and get up!” Then, God worked in his behalf and healed him. He will do the same for you!

In God’s Unconditional Love,
Cathie Miller

If you are interested in Christian counseling please contact me through my webpage contact page which can be found through the link below. I counsel over the phone and you pay through PayPal.

www.helpforgodshurtingpeople.com

To His Precious Hurting Child

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John 10:10 (GNT) The thief comes only in order to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come in order that you might have life – life in all its fullness.

Never forget that the devil is a foe who constantly seeks to destroy us. Why? Because he knows his eventual end is Hell. He wants company there. He hates God and wants to steal His children.

Today while praying I sensed in the spirit there are many being hurt needlessly by someone on a regular basis. You think if you ignore them and love them unconditionally they will feel bad and change. In the meantime each day you feel a little bit worse about yourself.

Please remember that not everyone who calls themselves a Christian really is. Just like you don’t become a car by sitting in a garage, you don’t become a Christian by sitting in a church.

In an effort to destroy you the devil is using this person and the hurtful words that come out of their mouth. Pray for God’s salvation for this person because without a total commitment to God they won’t change.

Get out now and remove yourself from Satan’s territory.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

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Spiritual Counseling

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I wanted to let folks know that I offer Spiritual Counseling. If you have never had Spiritual Counseling before you will be surprised at the difference between it and regular counseling.

In Spiritual Counseling the session that you have is totally Holy Spirit driven. Each session lasts for one hour. I can do it over the phone an/or online.

The sessions are built around your schedule as I counsel at night also. I work up until 10PM Mountain Time and also on weekends.

It always amazes me at how the Holy Spirit shows up and reveals to me things about your life, both presently and in the past, that explain what is currently happening in your life. The counsel is backed by scriptures and biblical based knowledge pertaining to your specific area of concern.

If interested please go to HelpforGodsHurtingPeople.com and fill out a contact form. I will then send you information on how it works.

I did a counseling session yesterday that totally caught myself and the woman I was counseling off guard. In a beautiful way God addressed her problem and explained to us both what was happening currently for her and why. She was very thankful and so was I.

Look forward to seeing what God has in store for you!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

Another Word From God

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As I mentioned on Facebook the other night as we were listening to a Messianic message online, the Spirit Of The Lord fell in the room and enveloped me with a supernatural peace. Then I sensed God giving me a message for someone. Yesterday afternoon I could discern an angel of the Lord around me. My little cocker spaniel sensed it at the same time and the size of the angel frightened her. She moved towards me frightened.

I have seen angels at different times in my life. One time I visited a friend’s church with her family. At the end of the service the pastor asked the congregation to pray for him as he was going into the jail to minister to the folks. As he said that I looked up and on either side of him there were two HUGE angels. They were at least 10 feet tall. I looked around wondering if anyone else saw it and the women who had brought me there was standing next to me, with her mouth wide open. She said, “Cathie did you see what I saw!” I told her I had and for some reason she and I were the only two who saw them. We then told the pastor and it encouraged him so much. This was a little church in the south valley in Albuquerque. Not a mega church. But the Holy Spirit, in my experience, has shown himself more in little congregation then the Mega Churches. Those ministers are on fire for God and do not make the same mega salary and yet God sustains them.

Now today God has given me another message for someone. I sat with it all day wanting to pray over it and as I did I am now sure it’s from God. I always test the spirits as the Bible says, “Know ye also that Satan can come as an angel of light.”

Someone is up nights wringing your hands. You are almost broke and any savings you have is almost gone. The spirit of God says you have someone close to you who continues to beg you for money. They never have any because they live above their means and then run to you for basic necessities and you have been giving it to them. Sometimes you go without yourself to give them money. You are buying their love because you think if you don’t give them money they will not love you anymore. They have used that because they know how you are and they emotionally blackmail you. God says you have bought people’s love your entire life. As a child you had an out of balance parent who constantly put you down and their words soaked into your spirit and as a consequence you felt you were not worthy of love but that’s a lie from the pits of hell meant to curse you and not bless you. Now God wants you to put a stop to the giving. The person needs to depend on God, not you, to meet their needs. You now have gotten yourself into a financial bind, but God says as you refuse to give money to this person anymore their respect for you will return and they will realize their life needs a major overhaul.

As you do this God will part the Red Sea of your difficulties and provide you with the finances you so desperately needs. Trust that God is by your side as you tell the person you will no longer support their lifestyle. You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Someone Needs This Message

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Someone needs this

You keep letting someone you love make a fool of you. God loves you so much and as His beloved child his heart is broken.

You do not need this person. You are simply afraid to be alone. You have low, low self-esteem. Others look at you and cannot understand why you are letting yourself be disrespected in this way.

Love shouldn’t hurt.

Satan is using this person to destroy you. Walk away. God has a person for you that is waiting in the wings but unless you close this door you will never meet them.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Quit Telling People They Are Going To Hell

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But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come. John 16:13

I believe we are all born with a conscience and with the ability to tell right from wrong. Over the years, however, our consciences become numb. We often ignore sin, and it’s consequences, or we find excuses for why our favorite sin is okay.

This morning as I read through my Facebook feed I found a lot of people telling people that if they do not change their ways they are going to hell. I am sure that is true, but is saying these things the way to bring people to salvation?

I don’t know about you, but if I am weak in some area a person like that is the last person I will seek out for counsel.

First of all, according to the word of God, we are not to confront those who are loss with the consequences of sin, but rather those in the church who are involved in sin. You can study this yourself in Matthew 18:15-17.

We are to counsel people with love, not beat them over the head with our bibles.

The scripture I started with, above, tells us that the Holy Spirit will convince people of sin. Once a person is saved the Holy Spirit will clean that person up. Not me and not you, but the Holy Spirit.

I always use this analogy to make that point; Do you catch fish that are already cleaned? It would be nice, but it doesn’t happen that way. We catch them, then we clean them. Jesus told the disciples to leave their nets and go with Him and He would make them, “Fishers Of Men.”

So if a saved person continues in sin it only shows that they love the pleasure they get from that sin more then they love God. We are told to deny ourselves and “take up our cross and bear it.”

Anything, or anyone, we put above Jesus is an idol. Any sin we love more then God is an idol.

I will tell you how God handles people who call themselves Christians and play with sin. I know this well because I straddled the fence between God and the world for years. You need to understand that when we accept Christ, the same Christ who was savagely beaten to become the perfect sacrifice for our sins, we lay down our life and take up His. So, as Christ has no sin in Him, he sets about to clean us up.

In my life, one thing after the other would go wrong until I finally realized that God was giving me wake up calls. Once I repented, and quit doing what was wrong, things got better.

Do you ever observe another Christian, who is living a half-baked Christian life, complaining about all that is going wrong in their life? You know that person is playing with sin and you believe it’s because God is trying to wake them up, but the person keeps sinning because they don’t get it. God won’t let a Christian stay in sin because it cost him too much to allow it. He will either wake them up and they will straighten up or he will take them out. You may think that’s harsh but I have seen it.

So what should we do about this? All we can really do is pray for the person. If they ask for advice we THEN give it, but not unless they ask.

What we don’t do is go around telling folks they are going to hell. The Bible says that is the Holy Spirits Job. He will bring a born again Christian to repentance. He’s the only one who can.

It shows a self-righteousness that reminds me of the Pharisees when we constantly tell people they are going to hell. It also shows that we as Christians are not loving towards sinners but instead we sound judgmental, “I am better then you, you lowly sinner.”

God warned Peter that he would betray him three times before the cock crowed. Peter denied that he would ever do such a thing but the Word teaches us that he did just that.

The minute we start acting, “Holier then thou,” the biggest temptation of our lives will come at us and often it brings us down.

We can preach better with our lives then with our mouths! That’s why I say quit telling folks they are going to hell. Let the Holy Spirit do that. He will cause things to happen to bring about their total surrender, trust me. Just pray them into the Kingdom.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller