Quit Telling People They Are Going To Hell

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But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come. John 16:13

I believe we are all born with a conscience and with the ability to tell right from wrong. Over the years, however, our consciences become numb. We often ignore sin, and it’s consequences, or we find excuses for why our favorite sin is okay.

This morning as I read through my Facebook feed I found a lot of people telling people that if they do not change their ways they are going to hell. I am sure that is true, but is saying these things the way to bring people to salvation?

I don’t know about you, but if I am weak in some area a person like that is the last person I will seek out for counsel.

First of all, according to the word of God, we are not to confront those who are loss with the consequences of sin, but rather those in the church who are involved in sin. You can study this yourself in Matthew 18:15-17.

We are to counsel people with love, not beat them over the head with our bibles.

The scripture I started with, above, tells us that the Holy Spirit will convince people of sin. Once a person is saved the Holy Spirit will clean that person up. Not me and not you, but the Holy Spirit.

I always use this analogy to make that point; Do you catch fish that are already cleaned? It would be nice, but it doesn’t happen that way. We catch them, then we clean them. Jesus told the disciples to leave their nets and go with Him and He would make them, “Fishers Of Men.”

So if a saved person continues in sin it only shows that they love the pleasure they get from that sin more then they love God. We are told to deny ourselves and “take up our cross and bear it.”

Anything, or anyone, we put above Jesus is an idol. Any sin we love more then God is an idol.

I will tell you how God handles people who call themselves Christians and play with sin. I know this well because I straddled the fence between God and the world for years. You need to understand that when we accept Christ, the same Christ who was savagely beaten to become the perfect sacrifice for our sins, we lay down our life and take up His. So, as Christ has no sin in Him, he sets about to clean us up.

In my life, one thing after the other would go wrong until I finally realized that God was giving me wake up calls. Once I repented, and quit doing what was wrong, things got better.

Do you ever observe another Christian, who is living a half-baked Christian life, complaining about all that is going wrong in their life? You know that person is playing with sin and you believe it’s because God is trying to wake them up, but the person keeps sinning because they don’t get it. God won’t let a Christian stay in sin because it cost him too much to allow it. He will either wake them up and they will straighten up or he will take them out. You may think that’s harsh but I have seen it.

So what should we do about this? All we can really do is pray for the person. If they ask for advice we THEN give it, but not unless they ask.

What we don’t do is go around telling folks they are going to hell. The Bible says that is the Holy Spirits Job. He will bring a born again Christian to repentance. He’s the only one who can.

It shows a self-righteousness that reminds me of the Pharisees when we constantly tell people they are going to hell. It also shows that we as Christians are not loving towards sinners but instead we sound judgmental, “I am better then you, you lowly sinner.”

God warned Peter that he would betray him three times before the cock crowed. Peter denied that he would ever do such a thing but the Word teaches us that he did just that.

The minute we start acting, “Holier then thou,” the biggest temptation of our lives will come at us and often it brings us down.

We can preach better with our lives then with our mouths! That’s why I say quit telling folks they are going to hell. Let the Holy Spirit do that. He will cause things to happen to bring about their total surrender, trust me. Just pray them into the Kingdom.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

What Are Your Sin Prejudices?

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I notice that a whole lot of Christian have what I call “Sin Prejudices.”

 

I know that I myself have them.

 

You may be wondering what I am talking about. Well, let me explain.

 

Some people judge others even though we are told in the Bible, “Judge not lest you be judged.”

 

We Christians have certain things that might bother one person more then it does the other person.

 

While sitting in a restaurant once, with a dear Christian friend of mine, a woman walked past our table with an extremely short dress on that was also low cut and left very little to the imagination. My friend said to me, “That woman goes to our church. I cannot believe that she dresses like that and calls herself a Christian.” Now I understood where this woman was coming from because there were probably people in the church trying to overcome a porn addiction and this woman’s lack of modesty was only making it harder for them to do so. Church is not the place to dress like that.

 

There are other things too. There are people who are publically involved in sex sin, people who have terrible tempers, people who constantly talk about other people, people into porn, people whose children are holy terrors, people who still dabble in drugs and drink too much alcohol, gossips, people who put pictures of themselves half-dressed on FB and completely ignore the fact that there are scriptures about modesty.

 

If I didn’t hit your favorite Christian prejudice I am sorry, because unfortunately there are a lot of things we Christians judge.

 

I know that the bible tells us we are to judge, using righteous judgment. But honestly, none of us walk on water and a whole lot of these things are better off left in God’s hands.

 

I wrestle with certain prejudices myself. Those times when I say to God, “How can this person or that person really believe that they are saved and still participate in those things?”

 

I have had people bring up things, people and situations in my life, especially the past, and ask how I can consider myself a Christian and allow this or that in my family.

 

I started to pray for God to blind my eyes from some of the things I see and to help me to give them to Him. Frankly, I was really struggling with some of it.

 

One day as I was praying God downloaded the following into my spirit; “Cathie, what if you look at it this way, haven’t I spoken to you in my Word that the most important thing is love and yet it’s hard to love when you judge.” Then He said something that changed my judgment habit. He said, “What if that person is a test that I send to see if you really can love unconditionally? The one thing you judge the harshest, being unable to love folks just like they are, could just be the one thing that breaks my heart about you. You can’t just love the mature Christians; those who really upset you are your test. If you cannot get to the point where you love all, regardless of their weaknesses, then you will never get to where I want you to be. I want you to love everyone just as they are. Unconditionally.

 

It takes surrender, complete surrender to ego, pride and especially self-righteousness. It doesn’t happen just once either. We have to do it over and over and over again.

 

There are ways to handle things. The bible speaks about taking a church member, who continues to bring ridicule on the church, and speaking to them with a few other members of the church. In other words not giving up on them immediately. Then if they continue in rebellion they must leave the church. BUT that is only the job of a pastor and church elders. It’s not my job and probably not yours. We are told to pray about it, take it to the Pastor and then let it go into their hands.

 

I truly believe that we must learn to love unconditionally. Hate never brought one soul to Christ. Not one. Rejection, and many other things that we don’t know about, happen daily in a person’s life. You cannot reject them and expect them to see anything different in us then they see in the worldly that are not saved.

 

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie