I notice that a whole lot of Christian have what I call “Sin Prejudices.”
I know that I myself have them.
You may be wondering what I am talking about. Well, let me explain.
Some people judge others even though we are told in the Bible, “Judge not lest you be judged.”
We Christians have certain things that might bother one person more then it does the other person.
While sitting in a restaurant once, with a dear Christian friend of mine, a woman walked past our table with an extremely short dress on that was also low cut and left very little to the imagination. My friend said to me, “That woman goes to our church. I cannot believe that she dresses like that and calls herself a Christian.” Now I understood where this woman was coming from because there were probably people in the church trying to overcome a porn addiction and this woman’s lack of modesty was only making it harder for them to do so. Church is not the place to dress like that.
There are other things too. There are people who are publically involved in sex sin, people who have terrible tempers, people who constantly talk about other people, people into porn, people whose children are holy terrors, people who still dabble in drugs and drink too much alcohol, gossips, people who put pictures of themselves half-dressed on FB and completely ignore the fact that there are scriptures about modesty.
If I didn’t hit your favorite Christian prejudice I am sorry, because unfortunately there are a lot of things we Christians judge.
I know that the bible tells us we are to judge, using righteous judgment. But honestly, none of us walk on water and a whole lot of these things are better off left in God’s hands.
I wrestle with certain prejudices myself. Those times when I say to God, “How can this person or that person really believe that they are saved and still participate in those things?”
I have had people bring up things, people and situations in my life, especially the past, and ask how I can consider myself a Christian and allow this or that in my family.
I started to pray for God to blind my eyes from some of the things I see and to help me to give them to Him. Frankly, I was really struggling with some of it.
One day as I was praying God downloaded the following into my spirit; “Cathie, what if you look at it this way, haven’t I spoken to you in my Word that the most important thing is love and yet it’s hard to love when you judge.” Then He said something that changed my judgment habit. He said, “What if that person is a test that I send to see if you really can love unconditionally? The one thing you judge the harshest, being unable to love folks just like they are, could just be the one thing that breaks my heart about you. You can’t just love the mature Christians; those who really upset you are your test. If you cannot get to the point where you love all, regardless of their weaknesses, then you will never get to where I want you to be. I want you to love everyone just as they are. Unconditionally.
It takes surrender, complete surrender to ego, pride and especially self-righteousness. It doesn’t happen just once either. We have to do it over and over and over again.
There are ways to handle things. The bible speaks about taking a church member, who continues to bring ridicule on the church, and speaking to them with a few other members of the church. In other words not giving up on them immediately. Then if they continue in rebellion they must leave the church. BUT that is only the job of a pastor and church elders. It’s not my job and probably not yours. We are told to pray about it, take it to the Pastor and then let it go into their hands.
I truly believe that we must learn to love unconditionally. Hate never brought one soul to Christ. Not one. Rejection, and many other things that we don’t know about, happen daily in a person’s life. You cannot reject them and expect them to see anything different in us then they see in the worldly that are not saved.
In His Unconditional Love,
Thank you for your post, you make some very good points! The only thing I would add (and I’m sure this is what you meant) is that we surrender our ego, pride, and self-righteousness to God, not surrender to them. I only wanted to clarify because we can often take things at face-value and I wouldn’t want someone to misunderstand. If I am out of line then I apologise. I agree, though, that we need to completely surrender all things to God daily (sometimes several times a day) and live others unconditionally, although it is hard to live out at times. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience.
You are correct that IS exactly what I meant. It’s a daily struggle to submit those things to God. Sometimes minute to minute. God Bless you Becky.
I really liked this and have had many conversations about this with my friends who are much more church-oriented than I. I think you bring up many questions that everyone need to ask themselves.
The only thing I’ll say is that as a former porn addict, the woman in a short skirt thing doesn’t really matter to most of us. It might trigger a sex addict’s mind, but even then, probably not. Sexual compulsive disorder goes a lot deeper than that.
The way I look at is that she probably wanted attention. The bigger question is why did she use that method to get it?
Thanks for your comment. Good stuff to know about Porn Addiction from some one who knows what he’s speaking about. God bless you!