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Stay Alert

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God is still, as of this morning, surrounding me with the following scripture, “The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the name of the Lord!” Job 1:21.

We see things going in one way on the world scene but we serve a sovereign God whose ways we cannot always discern before He reveals them.

Stay alert and watch. Read the following scriptures with discernment. I will not make any prophetic announcement because that’s not my strong gifting but I will say that things on the National scene could become shocking before this year is over.

New International Version

“Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save.” Psalm 146:3

Psalm 118:8-9 New International Version (NIV)

8 It is better to take refuge in the Lord

than to trust in humans.

9 It is better to take refuge in the Lord

than to trust in princes.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Living Through Unimaginable Sorrow

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Turning against God, when something hurtful happens, is for some understandable. We have all had times when we suffered pain and felt as if God let us down. It was during one of those times in my life where I reached a crossroad with God. I knew I could go down a road without Him or I could decide to trust Him and go on down the road with Him. I fell to my knees and told Him, “I don’t know why you have allowed this but nevertheless you are the only one who truly loves me, unconditionally, and whether you never answer another prayer I pray again, I am going on with you!”

I remember this quote from the movie, “The Shack,” when I need to, I take it out of my bible and read it. It puts everything in perspective for me. God spoke the following…

“Just because I work incredible good out of unspeakable tragedies doesn’t mean I orchestrate the tragedies. Don’t ever assume that my using something means I caused it or that I need it to accomplish my purposes. That will only lead you to false notions about me. Grace doesn’t depend on suffering to exist, but where there is suffering you will find grace in many facets and colors.”

― William P. Young, The Shack

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Guarding Our Hearts

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When we spend time with someone regularly we become like them. The intimacy we have with God daily leads us to the same kind of discernment Jesus used when dealing with people. We then have, “The mind of Christ.” Using His discernment we can deal with others the way Jesus did by observing how He dealt with people. Jesus was not afraid to call things out if need be. There is a time to be quiet, beloved, and a time to confront in love.

When I was being taught, by God, how to renew my mind, it was so mind blowing to see the following scripture; John 2:23-24

23 While Jesus was in Jerusalem at the Passover festival, many people believed in him because they saw the miracles that he performed. 24 But Jesus didn’t trust them because he knew human nature. No one needed to tell him what mankind is really like.

So Jesus knew, and we should too, that we have to use discernment when dealing with people because not everyone we come across is who they “appear” to be. Not everyone who told Jesus how wonderful his miracles were really loved Jesus. They loved the miracles but not all loved the miracle maker, God, and Jesus knew that.

In our own lives there are some people who might love what we do for them, but not us. They will use us and then abuse us when they can no longer use us.

I have found that people who have low esteem from years of abuse too easily seek approval of others. Certain users and abusers notice that in us and use it to their advantage. They can show a lot of love and approval but then, in order to get their way, they can refuse to give love and approval. It’s like a drug dealer feeds a junkie drugs and then when they see the person is hooked, they withdraw the drug availability and a junkie will then pay anything to get the drug they crave.

Discerning motives is the part of the mind of Christ, in us, that protects our boundaries.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie

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Appearances

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As I was watching and listening to Steven Furtick preach online this morning the Lord started pouring some wisdom into my spirit. Steven was, surprisingly, teaching on appearances. Some people have all the right appearances. They are in church all the time. They have a lot of money, which pays for fancy vacations, new cars and fine houses. You look at them and are impressed by it all. But God is not! God is not! Because God is looking on the heart, as my sweet Sister, Ihu Oma, reminded me this morning.

All of that stuff is impressive to look at and read about but it’s nothing to God because behind the scenes these people are empty suits. It’s all about them. Sometimes I see some of them and their own families of origin are hungry and sick and they do nothing but drive on by self-centeredly in their new cars. They eat at fine restaurants while their own family’s are praising God for beans and tortillas.

Folks God is keeping score. Those folks eating beans and tortillas invite others in and share what little they have with them. They go to minimum wage jobs each day and then do their best to encourage and do for others. Their appearances are not as good as yours but their score with God is so much higher then their appearances.

There is a scripture James 2: 3-5 that warms about appearances;

…3If you lavish attention on the man in fine clothes and say, “Here is a seat of honor,” but say to the poor man “You must stand,” or, “Sit at my feet,” 4have you not discriminated among yourselves and become judges with evil thoughts? 5Listen, my beloved brothers: Has not God chosen the poor of this world to be rich in faith and to inherit the kingdom He promised those who love Him?…

God knows our hearts. He looks past the appearances to the heart. If we do something simply to tick a box and our heart is not really in it, if we do it for praise or recognition God knows that and we miss the blessings involved with it.

The Bible tells us that God loves a cheerful giver. A person that gives because they love to see others happy is much more blessed then a person who begrudgingly pays a tithe. God taught me that years ago. He said to me, “once you give don’t worry about if you get blessed or not. Just give and it will come back when you need it.” Giving is like paying into a heavenly account. God looks down sees you in need and remembers you helping someone in need and then says, “Cathie has a balance in her heavenly account! I will send a Financial blessing her way.” Some of you don’t receive because you have nothing in your heavenly savings account. Start giving sacrificially and watch your situation change for the better.

God says to do the best we can and if people judge us for not doing things their way, they will answer to God. We may look healthy on the outside and yet have a disease such as Lupus that doesn’t show. God made us, he knows our health limitations and he doesn’t expect us to be at the church every time the doors open. We need to leave the judging to God and live our own lives.

One day a woman called me for a counseling appointment. During our time of counseling she proceeded to tell me she had Fibromyalgia and several other health issues. She started crying and telling me how she was invited places and didn’t have the strength to go. Friends and family put a

lot of pressures on this woman and shamed her for not going all the time. She said, “Why can’t I go? What’s wrong with me mentally? They say it’s all in my head!” I told the woman she was not mentally ill at all. She was physically ill and it was her family and friends who had a problem and not her.

Do the best you can. The only person who we need to worry about disappointing is God.

In God’s Unconditional Love,

Cathie King Miller

My Deliverance From Depression

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God can heal depression. I know because I was miraculously delivered from a lifetime of pain caused by depression. Until God renewed my mind I would have thought I would be depressed forever….this is my story.

People have no trouble believing that someone with a physical ailment was healed. Why then is it so hard to believe that someone with depression can be healed?

I am old enough to remember those in my grandmothers generation just talked about someone who was down as having “the blues.” In my mothers generation the blues were changed into “depression” and came with a medical diagnosis and medication.

The big winner in treatment of depression is the pharmaceutical companies. They make billions off antidepressants. Some of the antidepressants cause anxiety. Now people become anxious and depressed. Some antidepressants also cause sleeping problems. Yet, antidepressants remain one of the most prescribed meds in the United States.

Anyone who has known me longer then 20 years will tell you that I had depression so severely that it was hard for me to get out of bed. I often spent days in bed with the curtains drawn. I was given one antidepressant after the other and they might have given me a little more energy, at first, but they only worked temporarily. Sooner or later I went back to being depressed.

Twelve years ago, with the help of my husband, I started researching depression. We soon began to realize it was almost impossible to find anyone who had been healed by pharmaceuticals. Around that time a drug called, Abilify was introduced. It was widely advertised on television. They said “If your antidepressant is not working you might want to add Abilify.”

Clinical depression: Depressed mood that meets the DSM-IV criteria for a depressive disorder. The term clinical depression is commonly used to describe depression that is a type of mental illness‘not a normal, temporary mood caused by life events or grieving. Notice this medical definition of clinical depression has no mention of chemically depressed;

And this one of Major Depressive Disorder;

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Major_depressive_disorder

I also want you to notice the length of time of the two major diagnoses for depression. Neither of these list “forever.” The pharmaceuticals companies do want anyone healed of depression. They want people on antidepressants forever because they are getting very wealthy from it. They can do this by brainwashing people that they are chemically unbalanced and there is nothing that they can do forever but take pills. We start to tell ourselves and others that until we believe it and it’s mind over matter. Now people are addicted to antidepressants and truly believe they must have them forever. That’s what Big Pharma wants. Don’t ever try getting off your antidepressants cold turkey. If you decide to stop taking them do so under medical supervision only.

I began to seek God through fasting and prayer because I counseled so many people who told me that they were depressed and when I asked if they were taking antidepressants they almost always said, “Yes” When I asked if they felt they were feeling any better they almost all said, “NO.”

I was sitting in front of my computer one afternoon and God spoke to my heart that he was going to heal me from depression and He was going to show me exactly how to help other people heal from depression. I have been completely healed from debilitating depression and my whole life changed. I am not going into it all in this blog post but there is a way to be set free and I have taught it to others who have also been set free from depression.

I have had more then one person tell me that they were paying someone up to “220.00” dollars an hour for therapy that wasn’t helping them. God’s method, as taught to me, will set you free and as the Word say’s, “Whom the Lord sets free is free indeed.”John 8:36.

The only failures I have seen are those who are not true believers in God and do not have a personal relationship with God. These are the scoffers who believe in traditional psychology and are sold out for pharmaceuticals.

When you are sick and tired of being depressed, God most certainly can and WILL deliver you. Depression is oppression that takes hold during a time of trauma or intense pressure. Depression is a common expression of a broken spirit. It is fed by daily dwelling in the valley of despair.

If you are ready to begin your healing process God will meet you right where you are and begin to renew your mind. Chemical imbalance can be healed through changes in diet and adding some vitamins and minerals supplements. That, and the correct tools, used faithfully, will continue your healing from depression.

God changed my life and it was such a miraculous change that my passion is to help others to do the same.

Disclaimer

I am not telling anyone to quit their antidepressants. I am not telling anyone to quit counseling or therapy. How you handle your depression is between you and God!

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My blog is always my opinion and my experience with God given instruction that I am passionate about sharing with others. Nobody is forced to subscribe and no one is forced to stay subscribed.

It’s not about me. It’s about God and the miracle experiences I have had in His presence. I want you to be set free and live successfully in Christ Jesus.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Don’t Stay Depressed Renew Your Mind

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When God taught me how to renew my mind my entire life changed for the better.

We become depressed by thinking depressing thoughts and then dwelling in those thoughts.

Sometimes we like the attention that we get from being depressed. Most of the time we just stay depressed because we don’t realize that depression is a choice.

Try this; the minute you start to think about things that depress you say STOP. Then force your mind elsewhere. Play a game, read a book, watch a funny movie. You are in charge of what you think.

If music triggers thoughts of your ex, and that’s why you are depressed, do not listen to that music. Don’t watch romantic movies and don’t drink. Alcohol is a depressant.

You can renew your mind as soon as YOU make up your mind to do so.

Pray and ask God for strength and then just go forward!

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie

God Get Me Out Of Here!

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I often feel like Jonah. I can relate to him standing on the shore of Nineveh and looking at all the evil around him and saying, “God get them all!” To be fair Nineveh was an awful place to be. Evil was everywhere and don’t forget that Nineveh was the home of the Tower of Babel.

When we serve God He often uses us just where we are, in the belly of the beast. He keeps us there until, like Jonah, we repent and decide to do things God’s way.

Maybe you and I feel like we are wanting to escape our Nineveh today. Maybe we have bill collectors, troublemakers, our stressful jobs, sicknesses, family and Satan working through these very people that are all around us. In the natural, like Jonah, we are telling God, “Get me out of here let me escape to another town, another country, ANYWHERE God but here!”

Yet, like Jonah, God has a job for us to do in the midst of all these troubles. He wants us to witness to these people by showing them that through faith in the living God things can be better just where we are, right in the place we want so badly to escape.

When nothing is moving forward for you and you feel stuck consider the fact that God has a job to do, through YOU, right where you are. Once that job, whatever it is, is complete, then and only then, will God move you out.

So what can you do? Surrender. Yes, it’s that easy. Decide that, like Jonah, the quicker you surrender your will to His will, the quicker God will move you out of the current unpleasant situation you are in.

I often compare being in unpleasant situations to a caught fish, struggling to try and get off the hook the fish wildly trashes about. It’s all to no avail because that fish is not getting off that hook until the fisherman takes him off.

Surrender, be still and relax. You will be removed from these people and the unpleasant situation when God wants you to be removed. Be okay with that by living in the moment.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Dealing With Troublemakers

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“ A dishonest man spreads strife.”

We all know them. They are troublemakers. Troublemakers are people who are so miserable in their own life that the only thing that makes them happy is starting trouble between other people, stirring the pot, and then sitting back and gleefully watching the outcome of the trouble they created.

It has taken me awhile but I have recently discovered a major troublemaker in my circle of friends and family. I had noticed that every single person that this person and I know in common suddenly stops talking to me. When, to the best of my knowledge, I had done nothing to any of these people to upset them I prayed about it and God revealed to me the source of the trouble was one person. One person who I have had discernment about for sometime. One person who was at one time close to God but through sexual addictions has opened a door to every demonic spirit one can imagine. Several years ago the person had pictures online of them in church. Then, apparently, they got involved with a bad person or two and you can see that Satan has entered their life now and as they say, “in spades.”

Because most Christians are sensitive people, when we don’t have on the armor of God, when we don’t have the gift of discernment in knowing how to best deal with these troublemakers, they can easily get under our skin, disrupting our home and lives, pulling us into their lion’s den.

All it takes is one Satan filled demon from hell to turn your whole office, family and or friends against you.

At first, when you are the target, you think as a Christian that you can simply pray for them and be kind to them and they will change their ways. I considered that, and frankly I have been praying for the person for years. I prayed for them long before their jealousy of my life led them to try and destroy my ministry and my life.

Upon studying the Bible, regarding the way Jesus handled trouble makers, I came to the knowledge that Jesus used diverse ways in handling troublemakers. Some times he confronted them with anger and outrage while telling followers to pray for these people.

You can try ignoring them but most of them, I have found, become further upset and then do anything they can to get your attention.

I honestly believe the best way to handle them is to go to the people who no longer speak to you and tell them what you suspect the person, the troublemaker, of doing. Their favorite tactic is to tell someone you said something about them. Something hurtful. You can then try and set the record straight. Unfortunately these troublemakers are very skilled at what they do and sometimes the offended friend will NOT believe you.

To my friends in ministry, of any type, I want to warn you of something some of you already know and that is the fact that ministry can be very lonely. We have very few friends because of the anointing Christ has on our lives. Other Christians, out of jealousy, look for something to accuse you of. If you, being human, have a hard day and share that with a friend, the next thing you know it’s used against you. Be very careful of who you share with!

Troublemakers need to be exposed. I have found, as I fast and pray about the situation, God reveals to me how to deal with the problem. He also starts to out the troublemakers to others who then begin to see the truth.

You want to give a troublemaker as little ammunition against you as possible so, after praying, God may tell you to unfollow them on FB, and cut them out of your life. If you have to work with them plead the blood of Jesus over yourself anytime you come into contact with them. Ask God to turn the arrows they are attacking you with right back onto them. God once, during prayer, gave me a vision of a shield of armor surrounding me, as a circular fence. Every time the troublemaker shot malicious arrows my way they bounced off the shield of armor and went back onto the troublemaker.

Do not, and I know it’s so hard, get anxious about a troublemaker. Remember, and quote often, the following scripture;

“Greater is He who is within ME then he who is in the world.” 1 John 4:4.

Lastly, the Word tells us to ignore troublemakers. Set things straight with others, if you can, and then simply try to not think of it all the time. Stop anxiety thoughts and place your mind elsewhere. Then give it to God and try to forgive them, through Christ, who has forgiven you and me of so very much!

Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. – James 4:7

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Anxiety Caused By Financial Stress

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Living beyond our means causes a whole lot of our anxiety. Pray to get your finances into control. Quit buying things you cannot afford. Pay off your credit cards a little at a time. When our lives are out of control there will be disorder in every area. Disorder breeds stress.

I know of where I speak. I was once totally out of control financially. It caused me undue stress worrying about things I didn’t have to worry about because I spent money as a means of avoiding depression. I would often have to stress over obligations because of spending money on stuff I did not need. In the past ten years if I can’t pay cash for something I just don’t buy it. That life-change took God turning my life around and teaching me self-control.

Spending money we don’t have becomes an addiction, a high. You can start today to get it under control and live within your means. Worrying about paying bills is one of the greatest destroyers of relationships. Anytime you feel you have to spend money on someone to keep them you have a bad problem. I extend that to our children too. Build memories through family activities that don’t involve spending money.

I have had two dear friends die, in the past few years, who were not only paying their own bills but those of their grown children. They were afraid to say “NO” for fear their children wouldn’t love them or spend time with them. That’s emotional blackmail! Worry and stress killed them. There is no doubt in my mind. If you are an adult with a job learn to live on your own money.

Some of us need to grow up and live responsibly. Pray and lay your finances at the feet of Jesus, ask Him humbly about teaching you to live responsibly. If you need help email me at mscathie123@yahoo.com. I will give you a list of books that really helped me.

It’s amazing how quickly God will come to your side with help once you admit you are out of control!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Satan Wants To Destroy You

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Satan is not stupid. He has been studying you since the day you were born because his goal, his only goal, is to take as many people to hell with him as possible.

He will bring something or someone that looks like everything you have ever wanted to destroy you.

You will be so thrilled with the person you will forget they aren’t a bible believing Christian. You will be so thrilled with the car you won’t see that you will have to work two jobs to keep it. You will be so in love with the beautiful house on the hill that you will forget the fact that you wanted a starter home to build up equity and not have to rent anymore.

So many times well meaning Christians are in bad situations because of Satan putting something in front of them they really didn’t need in order to destroy them and their peace.

If you are there today pray in contrite sorrow and ask God to forgive you for putting things and people before Him. When we sincerely repent God comes on the scene and delivers us. Learn from the lessons, beloved of the Lord, and vow to God you will not repeat them. Put him in the center of all your decisions and you will do the right thing!

John 10:10 New International Version The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie