An Open Letter To Those Steeped In Self Pity

An open letter to all those steeped in self-pity today. I was there a long time ago. I have compassion but I have learned……

Self pity helps nothing. NOT ONE THING! Feelings are not reliable FAITH is an act of our will.

When we get into self pity we do not realize that there are many other people experiencing the same things. The difference is some go forward each day, trusting God to make it able for us to withstand what we see as the injustices of the world.

We falsely believe our lives are worse then everyone else’s life. Maybe they are and maybe they are not.

The more time we spend in self-pity the worse our situation will become. We come into agreement with Satan and he loves that.

Even if it’s true that your situation is bad you can turn the tables by finding something positive and talking about that.

You may be lying in bed steeped in self-pity writing about your sad situation on FB but YOU HAVE A BED WITH A ROOF OVER YOUR HEAD AND OBVIOUSLY A WAY TO GET ONLINE. THATS A BLESSING FOCUS ON THAT!

I do life coaching and so do a lot of other people. If you find yourself so steeped in self pity you cannot become unstuck find a Christian life coach to give you a hand up.

Truth be known you have the power to do it all yourself. You simply have to want it to change.

I am going to be honest. Self pity is an attention getting device.

No one can change your life but you. When you make that decision God meets you right there and helps you. You come into agreement with God whose Word tells us in Philippians 4:13 “ I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!”

Right now you are agreeing with Satan whom the Word tells us has come to steal, kill and destroy.

John 10:10 The thief comes not but that he may steal, and kill, and destroy: I am come that they might have life, and might have [it] abundantly.

The body cooperates with the words that we speak. Please quit speaking death over your life, self pitier. You are your own worse enemy.

In Gods Unconditional Love,

Cathie

Belovedhandmdn1@aol.com

Stay Alert

God is still, as of this morning, surrounding me with the following scripture, “The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away. Blessed be the name of the Lord!” Job 1:21.

We see things going in one way on the world scene but we serve a sovereign God whose ways we cannot always discern before He reveals them.

Stay alert and watch. Read the following scriptures with discernment. I will not make any prophetic announcement because that’s not my strong gifting but I will say that things on the National scene could become shocking before this year is over.

New International Version

“Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save.” Psalm 146:3

Psalm 118:8-9 New International Version (NIV)

8 It is better to take refuge in the Lord

than to trust in humans.

9 It is better to take refuge in the Lord

than to trust in princes.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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It Hurts But I Am Closer To Acceptance

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Can we talk? At first I wasn’t going to publish this. It shows my feelings are raw. I am usually the encouragement person. But then I prayed and felt led to share it anyway. We all are trying to be perfect. We know we don’t have to be, but we try. But the truth is we are human, in suits of flesh. We need each other. So I am publishing this. We are all pilgrims in this place longing for our home in heaven where God will wipe away each tear. So I am sharing this as I feel impressed by God that many can relate!

 

It hurts But I Am Closer To Acceptance

We are too hard on ourselves. When we have bad relationships with people we should either ignore it or change it. If it’s someone that is constantly uncaring, hurtful and rude it might be best to leave those people alone as much as possible. But what if it’s family? Someone you have to spend certain times with because of your spouse? It’s best to get along, in those situations, because of keeping family peace.

I have always been a “why” person. It’s who I am. I like a challenge. Because of that I will analyze a situation and make it better if I see area’s in which I might need to change.

So I looked at a certain situation and recognized area’s I needed to grow and change in. I prayed about it and I changed. I was sick of being a couple of folks emotional scapegoat. Everything I did was wrong, I was conspiring constantly to make their life miserable, according to them. I could say so much more but some of you will understand. 

I changed, I quit getting involved with anything that was none of my business. I was kind and I was understanding and went out of my way to please them.

And you know what? Nothing changed. Nothing changed because these people had made me the wicked witch of the Southwest and they were used to me being the excuse for a bad relationship with another family member. They thought “we win,” and we aren’t going to change.”

Lesson learned. Sometimes we need to change our behavior around certain people. When, with the help of God, we do change and we are still ignored, used and emotionally abused it’s time to realize it is what it is and again set boundaries.

I am thankful for God’s Unconditional Love that continues to remind me that I too am loved.

 My life is pretty hard. Because of my husband’s physical condition I have to take care of him and everything else by myself. He was in the hospital for 3 months and had seven operations. We lost everything we had because of our medical bills, even with insurance. It’s a challenge to put food on the table and vacations, buying gifts, well we just don’t have the money. We drive a sixteen year old car. We moved from our first rental here into a lease-to-own. We were thrilled thinking we would never have to move again. Then, the landlord decided he didn’t want to do a  lease to own, he wanted the money immediately and we didn’t have it. So we had to move and we had to borrow money from two different loan companies, my daughter and two sweet friends to do it. I pray daily for a way to buy a home. I am working hard to repair our credit scores to do so. In the meantime I thank God to just have a roof over my head. I want to move closer to friends and  some family in the Rio Rancho NM area, but I am stuck. These are folks who would be there the minute I called. So I trust God. When the time comes He will open doors for us.

Looking at a picture recently, of me at 20, I would never have imagined this would be my life in old age. It is what it is.

God gets us through each day with miracles only Chuck and I are aware of them. I build others up in faith because it also builds me up. I love Daddy God because he has said “I am with you always, never will I leave you or forsake you.”

If you think that any of us could get through our problems alone, without the faithfulness of God you are wrong. I am so blessed to be his daughter. But I have been too hard on myself at times. I don’t always need to repair all the cracks in my pot, so that those in my family might treat me better, those cracks are where HIS light shines through. Amen? I know so many of my readers can relate. Satan and those he uses tried to break us…

It didn’t work! Ha ha devil!

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

@belovedhandmdn1@aol.com