Love Addiction

My main passion is counseling and coaching Love Addiction with a 100% Christian perspective. Continuing to stay with someone who is controlling, verbally, emotionally and physically abusive, with the excuse, “but I love him/her” will destroy a person. It will cause you to have a very hard time trusting. It will cause you to be physically and mentally ill.

Recently a Christian couple came to visit with us. During the time they were here, which wasn’t long, not only did he shut her up every time she started to speak by saying things like, “Don’t say that.” He also keep shutting us up too. He is the most controlling person I have ever met. For those who know me you know I am nice until pushed to the max. Finally I said to the man, “Okay, we are all going to shut up. Say what ever YOU want to say.”

Recently I saw the woman and she must have put on 50 lbs since Christmas. In her case it’s a sign of self-medicating with food and withholding her feelings. Just to be clear that is not the cause of being overweight with everyone.

The sad part is the man calls himself a Christian.

When he left Chuck and I were so shocked by this man that we just looked at each other with our mouths open! Neither of us had encountered a demonic spirit speaking through a person, in that particular way, before! Never, ever!

If you are interested I have a book on Love Addiction on Kindle that is a result of over 10 years of God downloading information to me regarding Love Addiction. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07B8G1W4Q

I also offer telephone counseling and coaching that is donation based. If you are interested message me through

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In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

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Thus Sayeth Yeshua, Death Of Loved Ones

Thus Sayeth Yeshua,

You have asked about death my child. When my children pray for a love one, who is dying, to be healed they don’t understand when the loved one dies and is not healed. It breaks my heart to see the tears of my beloved children when they separate from a loved one through death.

If you only knew, my child, how peaceful and beautiful it is on this side, you would pray instead for me to take those you love. My children, in suits of flesh, see through the glass darkly, not yet grasping the wonderful place that heaven really is. Imagine beautiful blue lakes, surrounded by lush green lawns, and the bluest sky you have ever seen with cool breezes ruffling the leaves of lush, full green trees. The atmosphere is peaceful and calm and waves of joy pulse through each person constantly.

I understand you love them so much and your life is lonely without them. I know your heart breaks when you remember them with you and all the wonderful things you did. Even mothers that lose babies ache to feel them in their arms just once more and cry out to me, “Why, why didn’t you heal my child, Lord!”

Trust me, my child. I am all-knowing and see the life ahead for each and every person. When a decision is made, in the courts of heaven, to bring them home it’s because we are either saving them from pain ahead or releasing them from the pain they suffer here.

You asked about suicide victims. You must not look down on them as not being strong. You need to know that I judge the heart, and I am a loving judge. At the point of suicide the mind is not functioning correctly and things are not as they seem on the outside. They are so burdened down with pain, that they seek release in the only way that makes sense to them at the time.

You would judge differently if you remember that I am the potter. I made everyone of my children. I cannot stop my unconditional love for my children anymore then you can for yours. Always show mercy to those who were not strong enough to carry on and completely release them into my hands.

You earth bound children spend a lot of time thinking about who will go to heaven and who will not. You often shun certain sinners thinking that their sin is the biggest sin there is and thinking for sure when they die they go right into hell. Just like some of you I have some children that are away from me, but remember I made them all! I knew what they were going to do. When these people die their families miss them terribly too. Show compassion to all who grieve the death of a loved one. Leave judgment to me.

There are many, many things you do not understand now, and never will until you are in heaven. These are things too glorious for you to understand yet.

Let the fact that your loved ones who die are now free of pain and happy and completely healed with me, fill your hearts and your spirits. Do you trust me, my child? If so be filled with peace and release the dead into my arms!

One thing you must never forget, love is eternal. You will see your love again when you are reunited in heaven. You are not separated from them forever, just temporarily. Rest in that thought and rest in my peace as you grieve the loss of your loved one.

John 5:24 Very truly I tell you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life.

Revelation 14:13

13 Then I heard a voice from heaven say, “Write this: Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on.” “Yes,” says the Spirit, “they will rest from their labor, for their deeds will follow them.”

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

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Thus Sayeth Yeshua

Thus sayeth Yeshua,

Some of my children have become too focused on their past failures. In doing so they have not dealt with the pain they have suffered at the hands of others. In doing so you walk wounded. You put a smile on your face and yet inside you are battling depression. Because you don’t admit your emotional pain to anyone it manifests in other areas of your body as physical pain.

Spend some time each day picturing in your mind those who hurt you. Then see me walking between you and each person. One at a time. I am the light of the world. See my glorious resurrected body full of golden light that covers both you and the person who hurt you. Then say, “I forgive you in the name of Jesus.” Notice the peace you feel as my radiance surrounds you both. Daily do this until you feel no more hate, anger and hurt towards those who hurt you.

You cannot use past pain as a reason to justify your compulsive behaviors anymore. All compulsive use of drugs, alcohol, food, and sex originates out of a need to meditate your pain.

You are speaking what the scriptures say but you are not in sync with your soul. You must be free of the hurt within to overcome the things that hold you back from being truly free and bringing your body, soul and spirit completely in agreement with my unconditional love.

This is what I meant when I spoke to my disciples that they too could work miracles as I did and even greater. When you are in total agreement with my will prayer answers come naturally.

I kept my heart free from constantly remembering hurt, rejection and abuse though people said horrible things to and about me. You must learn to do the same.

12 Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father. 13 And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. 14 You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it. John 14:12-14

1Corinthians 13:4-5

Love does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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Monday Musings

So many Christians have been under full attack in the past few years. We have lost people we love from our lives, material possessions, reputations, and/or our health.

We feel as if all this brokenness has gotten us to the point of total surrender. We love God and we have determined to never leave His side because He is our only safe harbor.

But, beloved of the Lord, we still haven’t “arrived” yet. We have not, nor will we ever, reach a time where we are left alone. Satan harassed Jesus until the very end. People spoke horrific things to him and spit on Him on the cross.

I see and feel God working in the area of sins we may have battled since childhood. I see God making us more aware of how these things need to go as we ask for a deeper and closer walk with Him.

One area God was speaking to me about yesterday was unanswered prayer. What keeps our prayers from being answered?

For a lot of us it’s conditional love. We simply don’t like some people. They “rub” us the wrong way. In our heads we have a constant dialogue running. The largest huddle to jump over is hate. I have asked God to help me to find unconditional love for these people. I ask Him to allow me to see people through his eyes of unconditional love. Hate, gossip, jealousy, not forgiving, all these things HINDER PRAYER.

Have a blessed week!

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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222

In asking God for a Word today I was reminded that this is February 22. I then realized it is a 222 day. So many people tell me they see 222 often.

God directed me to Daniel 2:22.

But in getting complete answers I also always look at the scripture before and after the one I am interested in.

…21He changes the times and seasons; He removes kings and establishes them. He gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to the discerning. 22He reveals the deep and hidden things; He knows what lies in darkness, and light dwells with Him. 23To You, O God of my fathers, I give thanks and praise, because You have given me wisdom and power. And now You have made known to me what we have requested, for You have made known to us the dream of the king.

Look for things to be revealed today. Things that may have been hidden to you will suddenly become revealed. It is God that promotes people and also God that removes them from our lives as well as from the Global stage.

It could be that a prominent world leader will be removed. I would not be surprised if something big doesn’t happen in Venezuela soon. It’s a humanitarian crisis that cannot be allowed to continue.

Either way, either in your life personally or in our lives globally I discern big changes today!

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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Trusting God When Nothing Is Making Sense

All day long I have felt the Lord laying it on my heart to share this with people who are feeling so frustrated with the way their life is going. People who believe God gave them a promise for their life and they see no evidence of it year after year after year. As a matter of fact some of you are wondering if you really did hear from God!

I have heard the story of Samson and Delilah my whole life. There is a part of it that God used yesterday in order to show me something I had not seen in the same way before. I was listening to Pastor Steven Furtick preach on the story yesterday when God opened my eyes to something through his sermon.

The part that came alive to me was the part in JUDGES 13. An Angel Of The Lord appears to Samson’s mother:

“Now therefore, please be careful not to drink wine or similar drink, and not to eat anything unclean. For behold, you shall conceive and bear a son. And no razor shall come upon his head, for the child shall be a Nazirite to God from the womb; and he shall begin to deliver Israel out of the hand of the Philistines.” (Judges 13:4 & 13-14)

So she is told her son was to be used to deliver Israel out of the hands of the Philistines. She followed all the rules. She, and her husband, took time to raise Samson in the house of God. God had something important for their son to do. He was God’s anointed.

Time passes. When he was a young adult, Samson left the hills of his people to see the cities of Philistia. He fell in love with a Philistine woman from Timnah, whom he decided to marry, ignoring the objections of his parents, who were concerned because the Israelites were forbidden to marry Gentiles.

About now, if I was Samson’s mother, I would be thinking, “How can this be Lord? What you said to me had nothing to do with my son marrying the enemy! What is going on?”

As we read the whole story we come to see that what looked like a terrible mistake actually was part of God’s plan.

A lot of us think our miracle is going to be straight forward. Now when things aren’t looking good and everything is going crazy, we might be tempted to give up our dream.

What we fail to see is that when everything in the natural is looking bad, we have to stay calm. God will do what he said he will do, just like he did with Samson eventually. We have to trust the plan because God will not do it in the way it makes sense to us, instead he will do it in a way in which, when it happens against all odds, not just us, but all those watching, will know it was only because of God that we got our miracle!

You might not see it right now, beloved, but if you simply trust God, like a well woven quilt, your life is all going to all come together for your GOOD.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

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You Can Have The Desires Of Your Heart

If you really want something you must go after it completely. Let your pride go.

I once wanted to work at a certain place. It was close to my house, the benefits were beyond good and the pay was excellent.

I knew I was qualified for a position there, and they were hiring, I sent a resume and had heard nothing a month later.

I prayed about it and then I decided to do something BOLD. I faxed my resume daily with a cover letter stating the facts that I would be a perfect fit for the job they were offering, etc.

I guess they got sick of it. To shut me up they called on Friday of that week and made an appointment for an interview the next week.

When I was ushered into the interview office I saw 5 people sitting there. When they started the interview the interviewer said, “We decided we all wanted to meet the person who wanted the job badly enough to fax her resume every day.”

I wowed them and I got hired.

Decide where you want to work and don’t settle for less. Decide what you want to do in life and, if need be, go back to school and get a degree to do it.

I have little patience for people using excuses. If you want anything bad enough, and it’s not immoral or illegal, God will help you get it.

Don’t sit there. Follow up on resumes and if you have to fax once a day and call them asking if they received your resume.

Don’t look at excuses! In God’s world anything is possible if you want it badly enough! I chose to see my glass half full and then God meets me there and fills it to overflowing!

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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A Word For The Discouraged

Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world.  1 John 4:1

Not all that glitters is gold, is a cliché that a lot of us grew up with. Yet, still in this day and age, we get fooled often because we want to find the perfect relationship, perfect job, and we want joy in our lives.

We often spend a lot of time praying for our miracle, and then when we “think” we have it, we start ignoring all “red flags” and we are sure that this person, job or “thing” is from God. Then when things turn out badly, we turn around and blame God.

I have finally gotten to a point in my walk, where I never blame God when things go wrong. I know, without a doubt, that all things that happen in my life that are less then perfect, are because I wanted something and didn’t take the time to pray over the situation or they come directly from the hand of the devil.

The devil is the enemy of the soul of every single Christian. Like he did with Job, the devil studies us to find out area’s of our weaknesses and that is where he hits us.

Sometimes it feels, these days, as if we barely get through one rough time before another one is on our doorstep. We get tired and we get weary, and we become more vulnerable to taking the first solution we see that might be an answer.

Psalm 34:18 tell us the following:

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”

When we are suffering in our emotions, or health area’s, because of a poor decision we made, that should be a clue to us to take our own inventories. When faced with the consequences of bad decisions, it’s important to ask ourselves what pattern in our lives are we constantly repeating? If we can pinpoint that pattern we can save ourselves a lot of pain.

 I counsel people sometimes who get so tired and weary with doing everything alone, that they look at the first person that comes along as someone who can rescue them. Having been a single mom for years I understand. But when I help someone who has rushed into a situation that turned out badly, out of desperation, I counsel them to trust in God in the future and not another frail human being.

It’s the same with bad jobs. We need money, we have to eat and pay the bills and so we jump head first into the first opportunity that presents itself only to say to ourselves later, “I hate this job!”

What God has shown me is that we must get to a point that we trust God, more then other people, to be the solution to our problems. Trusting God means we can sit still and wait until the right opportunity presents itself.

Trusting God means we can pray for wisdom and discernment before making life-changing decisions.

Satan doesn’t tempt us with things that don’t look good. He brings something around, wanting to destroy us, that looks just like what we have been praying for. We often forget that we are in a battle for our souls, and don’t even consult God prior to making important decisions. Satan can make things look good for us that are not in our best interest.

“And no wonder, for even Satan disguises himself as an angel of light.” 2 Corinthians 11:14

The most important thing in the world, for the Christian, should be our relationship with God. When we spend a lot of time with Him each day, in prayer and the Word, we become more keenly aware of anything that comes our way that isn’t of Him.

I often say that our relationship with the Lord is like any other relationship. The more time we spend with someone the more we get to know his or her personality. We know what they like, and what they don’t like.  That’s why our personal time spent with God each day is so important. We begin to know what He is like, and when something or someone comes along that is not like Him; we will have much better discernment.

Satan’s tactics have not changed one bit. In the Garden of Eden he starts to mess with Eve’s mind. She listens to him, and thinks, “I guess he is right, God won’t care if I eat that apple.” Confusion sets in, and sin follows. Spending time searching the scriptures for answers tell us what God likes and what He doesn’t. If we can keep our minds full of God’s Word we will have better defense against being tricked into things by Satan.

The past is over, and we all blew it in one way or another in the past. We need to forget bad decisions, and get over it. We can’t change the past. The future can be better when we learn what God wants and stay in obedience to His rules, whether we like them or not.

Obedience brings true blessings! Beloved, today if you need to make a decision DO NOT do anything out of desperation. God has your answers, and He is more then willing to supply our needs when we ask Him!

Wait on the LORD!

Father, Help us to make Godly decisions today, and everyday. Give us wisdom, discernment and clear heads when making life long decisions. Thank you for being near to us 24/7. When we call, You answer us and send angels before us to prepare our way! In Your Name, the Name above all names we pray. Amen and Amen

May God be with you today, May He guide you and keep you safe from the wiles of the devil!

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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A California Earthquake?

Today while I was praying for my oldest son, who is away from God, and me, I was reminded of something. Was it a warning? Perhaps, we will have to pray about it.

In 1971 we were living in California in the San Fernando Valley, Granada Hills CA to be exact. My son’s birthday was February 8th. For some reason everyone in both of our families forgot his birthday. I was upset about it, and it was before I was saved. Meaning I was more upset about it then I should have been. I was pregnant with my second son and hormonal anyway. I cried most of the day about everyone forgetting Chris’s BD.

The next morning,early on February 9th, 1971, I was awoken by a huge boom! At first I thought a drunk had run into one of the cement pillars under our apartment. It happened frequently as we lived above the parking structure. But as I was contemplating that the earth started to shake violently and I realized we were having a very bad earthquake. We were evacuated shortly thereafter as a dam was damaged and getting ready to burst. We were in the direct path of the gushing water.

I was so scared and I remember thinking to myself, “I can’t believe I was so upset yesterday over nothing because now we are in a life threatening situation. As we say, “ In the blink of an eye everything can change.”

I believe that has been 48 years. They are way overdue for something big in that area. We need to pray about that.

Also, if someone reading this is really upset over something you are going through right this minute, let it go. We never know when things could be a whole lot worse!

Amen?

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie Miller

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A Heart For Serving

In the church where I was ordained it was a special thing. My pastor didn’t look at CVs he instead got in prayer and let the Holy Ghost guide his decisions.

I approached him about starting a women’s ministry. His wife was our piano player and had no desire to do anything else. There were hurting women there.

I stated my case. The pastor said, “So you have a servants heart and because of you background you have compassion for women.” I said, “Yes, I do”

So starting the very next Sunday Pastor told me to get there early to discuss my training. I dressed beautifully. I was sure pastor would announce me as the new women’s ministry leader. I wanted to be looking good.

Well it didn’t start that way. We had a pot luck every Sunday. Pastor directed me in to that area to set up tables, put silverware out, plates, glasses and all the things needed to serve and prepare food.

The next Sunday he asked me to clean the restrooms as it appeared the cleaning people hadn’t done it.

This went on for a year where pastor observed me and my willingness to really serve people. At the end of the year he saw I could be trusted and allowed me to start the women’s ministry. He ordained every minister in that Church, just as Jesus choose and ordained the apostles. It was then, he finally, ordained me as a women’s minister.

Jesus has big things for us. He has places he wants to use us but he is going to test us first to see how we act in the trenches. When we pass these tests then we move on to the desires of our hearts. We must occupy what ever place we are in and do our best to thrive in the place even when it’s not our ideal place.

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