An Open Letter To Those Steeped In Self Pity

An open letter to all those steeped in self-pity today. I was there a long time ago. I have compassion but I have learned……

Self pity helps nothing. NOT ONE THING! Feelings are not reliable FAITH is an act of our will.

When we get into self pity we do not realize that there are many other people experiencing the same things. The difference is some go forward each day, trusting God to make it able for us to withstand what we see as the injustices of the world.

We falsely believe our lives are worse then everyone else’s life. Maybe they are and maybe they are not.

The more time we spend in self-pity the worse our situation will become. We come into agreement with Satan and he loves that.

Even if it’s true that your situation is bad you can turn the tables by finding something positive and talking about that.

You may be lying in bed steeped in self-pity writing about your sad situation on FB but YOU HAVE A BED WITH A ROOF OVER YOUR HEAD AND OBVIOUSLY A WAY TO GET ONLINE. THATS A BLESSING FOCUS ON THAT!

I do life coaching and so do a lot of other people. If you find yourself so steeped in self pity you cannot become unstuck find a Christian life coach to give you a hand up.

Truth be known you have the power to do it all yourself. You simply have to want it to change.

I am going to be honest. Self pity is an attention getting device.

No one can change your life but you. When you make that decision God meets you right there and helps you. You come into agreement with God whose Word tells us in Philippians 4:13 “ I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!”

Right now you are agreeing with Satan whom the Word tells us has come to steal, kill and destroy.

John 10:10 The thief comes not but that he may steal, and kill, and destroy: I am come that they might have life, and might have [it] abundantly.

The body cooperates with the words that we speak. Please quit speaking death over your life, self pitier. You are your own worse enemy.

In Gods Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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Painful Pasts And Addictions

If you don’t get the infection out of a wound it never completely heals.

If we keep using alcohol, drugs, sex, food or love Addiction to escape the pain, that we are afraid to face, we never heal completely.

There might be a temporary healing, it might form a scab of sorts but if infection is still present, even a tiny bit, it will fester and cause us trouble and pain over and over again.

It takes a conscious effort on our parts to find out exactly what the root of our pain is. It takes getting in and staying in the Word of God. It takes sincere heartfelt prayer asking God to show us the place where depression and emotional pain took root in our spirits. Once we understand where that place of pain originated we can then face it and get it out of our life.

We have to make peace with all the parts of our lives. No ones life is perfect. Bad things may have happened but Praise God they are over now! We made it through them.

Constantly dwelling on past hurtful memories will cause us to stay stuck in a place where we don’t move forward because we are still concentrated on the past.

In order to move forward we have to face the bad memories and look at them fully. We then say, “Past you no longer have a hold on me. What happened, happened. I see it, but I let it go because it no longer defines my life. The Word of God says I am a NEW creation.”

2 Corinthians 5:17 New International Version (NIV)

17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come:[a] The old has gone, the new is here!

You, beloved, have the power through Christ, Jesus, to overcome you past and to quit letting it have any control over your current life. When the hurtful thoughts come you choose to dismiss them with thoughts, instead, of the wonderful future God has planned for you.

The choice is YOURS. You no longer have to keep letting the past infect today or tomorrow. Let the wound be healed. Look forward now to the glorious future that can be yours. You know the past was a dark, unhappy place of defeat. Why do you choose to keep visiting it?

I feel impressed to say to you today that some of you are your own worst enemies. You must make a choice daily to walk in abundant new life. You must make a choice to be committed totally to putting the old behind you and daily doing what it takes to get you to your promised land.

If any of your addictions really helped you would not be feeling bad now. There is a big difference between numbing pain and healing pain. God wants you to know TODAY is your day to walk free from Addiction. Today is the day you and God find the strength to move on. You are the only one that can change things. Make up your mind to walk into your glorious future. Tell God you are ready to put the hurt and pain behind! As you do so door after door will miraculously open in front of you!

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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Compassion

When a person has such intimate knowledge of how you are hurting and what you are going through it’s because they too have experienced pain. Emotionally and/or physically.

Compassion is only learned from having been there too, in one way or another.

When I read something written by someone who can relate so well with hurting people I know they have intimate knowledge of pain.

Jesus had a human experience on this earth so, while in a suit of flesh, He could experience human emotions.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

Belovedhandmdn1@aol.com

A Prophetic Dream 03/27/2019

I had a dream last night of strong winds that swept the globe. Interestingly enough the winds were not tornadoes but gusts of wind that came up suddenly and were more destructive then tornadoes. There was no warning.

They were happening in places never seen before.

It was around dinner time, I heard tremendous wind. I looked outside and saw neighbors mattresses, furniture, bicycles strewn everywhere and people crying and looking dazed as if they didn’t understand what had happened.

We were completely safe and not a hair on our heads was damaged. At our front door, as I looked down was a basket of figs. Not a blemish on them, as if an angel of God had placed them there.

Interpretation that God gave me just now.

Daughter, prepare yourself. The blood of the innocents has grieved my heart. The things that happen on a daily basis are grievous and unspeakable. I am going to sweep the earth with catastrophe. I have to use it as a way of bringing people to their knees. I have always used things I control, rains, wind, earthquakes to cleanse and awaken people of the earth.

My children will have a cloak of safety around them. Not a hair on their heads will be touched. People will know that these are the children of God. Remember Daniel? He was in My will. Not one of the Lions touched Him. These experiences will be everywhere for my children living daily in my will!

The fig Basket represents the withered fig tree. Anyone who lives only to himself is of no use in these last days. They give lip service but they are still living only to please themselves centered on money and possessions. Daughter, you have seen how worthless these things are. I have had to reduce you to nothing to correct your obsession with earthly possessions. Now you bloom forth with a sweet fragrance after having learned what is truly important is your relationship with me. Our relationship produces fine, blemish free fruit. I deliver a fresh basket to your door, my beloved, each day. It is symbolic of the Word my people share to encourage and help others. Those who do so will always be blessed.

Amen.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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Do You Know You Are Really Beautiful?

“So, God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God, he created them; male and female he created them.”

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14

I often think about my friend from where I once worked, Rita, when I think of lessons God taught me about low self esteem.

Rita was beautiful. A petite Spanish woman with thick beautiful brown hair and big brown eyes, she had people’s attention when ever she walked by.

She was one of the hardest working people I had ever met. She worked her first job from six o’clock to 2pm and then went to work as a beautician in a nice shop from 3pm to six pm.

We became friends after the Lord gave me a Word for her one day. She was drawn to the things of God and God used me to mentor her. A single mom, she bought her first home from the sweat on her brow.

I was fascinated by the fact that her self-esteem was so low. I could not figure out why, with all she had going for her, she always thought she was unattractive.

The day came when she was having a party to celebrate her new home. I was excited to meet her sisters and brother.

It was that day when all I needed to know about her low self esteem was revealed to me by God.

Her mother and father were divorced and her father, a very handsome and successful man, simply adored Rita. She was clearly his favorite.

When I saw her sisters I was shocked. Even though she thought she was the ugly duckling of the family, none of them compared with Rita.

I begin to watch their interactions and I heard all the put-downs coming out of their mouths towards Rita who, like Cinderella, was waiting on them hand and foot.

Then God said to me, “Cathie do you see how hurtful words can be? These people were so jealous of Rita that they put her down her whole life. The poisonous words took root in her spirit and she believed them. Watch your Words my child! They have the power to destroy potential.”

So I ask you today dear reader, Is your low self esteem rooted in reality or is it a product of jealous people trying to put you down to squash your potential? Have you believed lies about yourself that have been spoken over you your whole life?

What if you are the beautiful butterfly God says you are? Beloved, spread your wings and FLY.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie King Miller

The Evil Tongue

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21

Words are so often used as weapons. I believe that words used by bullies and abusers carry with them a pain that lasts longer then that of physical abuse.

I have recently started a YouTube channel. For most it would be no big deal but for me it was a case of surrendering all my insecurities to God.

As an adult I can still remember some of the cruel things my mother said that were stinging to my soul.

When I was about five or six years old we were shopping in a department store when one of my mothers friends saw her. Evidently they had lost contact after high school. The woman said to my mother, “What a pretty little girl you have!” My mother answered, “Well she’s not pretty but she is a sweet little girl.”

Those words, and many others, she said led to a lifetime of low self esteem caused by her words. Later on I married a man who was extremely verbally abusive, often making fun of me in front of others.

Recently I saw online a woman who told the story of how she escaped domestic violence. She may have escaped physical abuse but the man she is married to now is verbally abusive.

The basis of most of our insecurities start in childhood where people, who haven’t submitted their tongues to Jesus, are used by Satan to destroy our potential. We often marry abusive people because it feels comfortable to us because of what we have put up with our whole life.

Starting that YouTube channel was hard. It’s not like a selfie that you can photoshop. What you are is what people see. When God directed me to start the channel I wrestled with it because of insecurities about my looks. Finally I realized that if it is for the glory of God it will be taken care of by God. Truthfully it has been so freeing to finally let people see the real me!

Watch the words you use. Are we building people up or tearing them down with our tongues. Pray for God to tame your tongue around your children. Are you blessing them or are you cursing them. What you say is what you get. Don’t allow anyone to speak death in the life of your child.

In His Unconditional Love,

Cathie

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The Prophetic Dream God Gave Me Today

Right before I woke up this morning God gave me a prophetic dream. Let me tell you the dream and then I will give you the interpretation God gave me.

I also would say that I believe God told me that this dream will have different meanings and for someone it could represent your actual situation. Please keep in mind that the Holy Spirit ministers individually to each person as needed.

The dream.

I saw a handsome man and the Lord gave me a vision of his sweet wife whose head was bent down in sorrow that she was becoming used to. Her mother in law was overly attached to the son. The son was a mama’s boy. He shared confidences between himself and his wife, that should have been private, with his mother. The mother took great pleasure in having the upper hand and was making the wife’s life miserable.

The wife had a favorite tree in the yard and she would sit in front of the tree, when she was feeling down. She would enjoy being with God there and hearing the birds singing.

In an evil act of meanness the mother in-law spoke to the man one day while the wife was at work, to cut down that tree. “It is dead anyway,” she said. The man, who always obeyed his mother, began the task of cutting the tree down. He chopped branches off here and there until the tree looked bare. He said, “I will finish tomorrow.”

I saw the wife come home, grab a cool glass of tea and head outside to enjoy time with God by her favorite tree. As she saw the tree she began to cry. Her beautiful tree was almost gone. Her heart was broken, but as with everything else that had been done to her, she realized that it would be useless to say anything. As she sat there she determined in her heart that she would still sit there anyway and praise God. Suddenly right before her eyes, new green shoots began to sprout out from the almost dead tree! Everywhere she looked the growth on the tree was sprouting up, lush and green! She was so excited she ran to get the husband. The mother in-law, hearing the commotion, ran out to see what was going on and began to run away, seeing she had lost her power to destroy her daughter-in-law.

The dream ended

Interpretation

The woman represents the bride of Christ. Many of us have been hurt, emotionally and physically, so many times that we have given up and resigned ourselves to a situation being “dead.” The fight has gone out of many.

The mother-in-law represents Satan who is always stirring up trouble in our lives designed to hurt us.

The tree represents our situation. Satan thinks he has cut-down our miracle and he thinks our situation is DEAD. But regardless of what Satan has done we have still stayed by the side of our Father God.

The tree, supernaturally blooming, alive and green, means Satan is our defeated foe. Our prayers will be answered and answered in such abundance that all those who see our miracles will know we serve a Mighty God of miracles! He delights in restoring seemingly dead situations.

Praise His Name! I believe dead situations are being brought back to life, right before our eyes!

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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How To Control The Thoughts Satan Puts In Your Mind

When God delivered me from depression He taught me that my depression was now my choice. The mind is our battlefield and it’s Satans favorite battlefield because he loves to put thoughts in our mind to bring us down.

When Jesus was in the wilderness Satan came to Him with little taunting to try to get Jesus to sin.

For instance in Luke 4:3

New Living Translation

Then the devil said to him, “If you are the Son of God, tell this stone to become a loaf of bread.”

Now what does Jesus do? He comes back with the Word of God.

New Living Translation

But Jesus told him, “No! The Scriptures say, ‘People do not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.'”

So THATS how God wants us to combat Satans assault on our minds!

Watch the thoughts that come into your mind today and use the Word against them!

WooHoo Satan you are a defeated foe! Later dude! 😁

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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Hateful Christians

Galatians 6:1-2

Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.

 

Romans 12:15

Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.

I find it very hard to ask for prayer. As an retired ordained womens’ minister, and also a counselor, I am usually the one doing the prayer and counseling of others. However, and I am sure this will come as no shock to most of you, I too find myself in need of prayer and counseling from time to time.

God tells us we are to bear one another’s burdens when we are asked.

What we are not to do is give the Christian who has been brave enough, and humble enough, to ask for help an egotistical “ I am perfect and you obviously are not,” reply.

A person told me once that he had gotten to the point where he felt badly about asking for prayer. He said one woman said pointedly to Him, “The Holy Spirit is your counselor!” Then another man said to Him, “Take you burdens to the Lord, son!”

We are at a time in the body of Christ when we make other Christians feel like they are out of step with God when they ask us for prayer one to one!

Saying things like the ones above just pour added guilt on a man or woman of God when asking, out of desperation, for help.

God spoke to me once about using scripture as a weapon. He said, “Don’t do that again because I know your heart, you are trying to use my Word to put that person down!”

Jesus was patient and kind with “sinners.” Yes, we can see if a person is out of Gods will, often by the way they are living. The last thing we want to do is be so rude in telling them what God says about it, in a hateful way, that the person doesn’t lovingly trust us to guide them back to Christ.

God told me to encourage people, that are out of Gods will. That way we can loving lead them back to righteousness by our love expressing the unconditional love of Christ.

When I was backslidden there was a semi-retired minister of God who I worked with. He asked me if I was living with my boyfriend at the time. I said, “Yes.” He said “ Cathie, I love you in the Lord but that’s called fornication and you folks need to get married.” He then left it alone.

Every time he would see me he would say something like, “Baby girl, God loves you!” It started wearing on my conscience because of his love and patience with me. Eventually we got married and he was the pastor that married us. Had he said, “You are a sinner living like the devil and Gods going to send you to hell,” I would have avoided him like the plague.

My point in all of this is simply this, we need to approach folks with love and kindness, meet their needs and not act like demons from hell when approached by folks.

We cannot be mean and ugly to people and expect them to see God in us. The world is full of mean, angry people that are full of judgment. We need to be merciful and lovingly help those who are hurting.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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Words That Kill The Spirit

I am a senior citizen. I tell you that because I still have to give to God some of the hurtful, spiteful and frankly demonic things said to me as a child and throughout my life.

I give them to Jesus, I have forgiven those who said them, but Satan gets a lot of traffic from words. I know, if you take off your “Super Christian” hat you will admit it too. Words come back to bite at times when you are not even thinking of them. It’s Satans way of getting as much traction out of mean words as possible!

Bullies love to tear down with WORDS. People have killed themselves over mean words.

John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.

Being mean with words is a habit, and it’s often learned from a parent who learned it from their parent. It’s a generational curse. It’s time for those reading this with a bad habit of saying mean things to BREAK the generational curse. Stop it now by giving it to God and praying to not endulge in making yourself feel better by making others feel worse. Quit using the “I was just kidding” excuse you weren’t kidding and it’s not funny!

Ephesians 4:29

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Matthew 12:36

I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak,

Proverbs 21:23

Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.

Proverbs 15:4

A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.

James 1:26

If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.

Colossians 3:8

But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.

In His Unconditional Love

Cathie Miller

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