“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

 

The following is an excerpt from my new E book, “Love Addiction Help For Christians.” You can see it by going to Amazon and putting my name; “Cathie King-Miller” in the search line.  As a recovered Love Addict I poured out my heart in this book. I have researched Love Addiction for the last ten years. I have counseled Love Addicts and Avoidance Addicts. This book is the result. You can break free. God has a plan for your life and it is my sincere desire that after reading and applying the advice in this book you can not only survive Love Addiction but have the knowledge to find your God given soul mate.

If you have ever been in a relationship where you were treated poorly, cheated on, and verbally  abused, but couldn’t break free,  this book is God ordained for you….

 

Tony’s Story…names and places have been changed to protect the clients privacy.

 

Tony fell in love with Louise in high school. From the moment he saw her she was the only girl for him. He was obsessed with her. Her bubbly personality, blonde hair and blue eyes were nothing like his dark looks and shy demeanor.

 

They both attended the First Baptist church in the small town they grew up in. Tony was born into a Christian family and by the time he was 13 years old he went forward and accepted Jesus Christ as his savior. Louise’s story was almost identical to Tony’s.

 

It was understood that they would get married the summer after high school graduation. They had a simple, but lovely, wedding. They next month they loaded his old Ford truck and headed for the state college where Tony would evidentially earn an engineering degree.

 

Tony graduated and immediately received several job offers. He finally took a job for a well-known oil company. Tony and Louise were excited about moving to a large town in the Midwest. With a nice salary Tony was able to buy a wonderful starter home for them. Soon they had two beautiful children and by that time he had received a couple of promotions. They bought their dream home and stayed busy with two children going to their games and participating in their activities.

 

They were well established in a nice bible-believing church.

 

Louise started going back to school to get her degree. The children soon graduated from high school and Louise started to work as a teacher.

 

Their life had been full and busy and there was no time to be bored. However, now with the kids away from home and Louise working, Tony began to experience a bit of depression and an extreme boredom with life. He spent a lot of time sitting on the patio and contemplating what he might have missed in life.

 

A new guy, Mario, was working with him and he was also in his early fifties. He had a flashy sports car and was always seen with a lot of gorgeous and younger women at the company parties. One afternoon as they were leaving work the new guy asked Tony to go get a drink with him. Tony wasn’t much of a drinker but he figured, “Why, not?”

 

The two men had a couple of beers and then Mario said, “Let’s get out of here. Want to go see some gorgeous women at the strip club?”

 

Tony felt excited and guilty at the same time. He was afraid to look like a goody-goody to Mario and so for the first time in his life he went to a strip club. He felt guilty, at first, but he was soon spending more and more time there.

 

He met a pretty stripper named Monica who lavished attention on Tony. Monica knew men, she could see that Tony had money and she was willing to do what she had to do to get some of it.

 

Inexperienced Tony was flattered by her attention. For the first time in a long time he felt happy and young again. He started to think about what it would be like to have Monica to himself away from the strip club. So Tony asked Monica out.

 

He started telling Louise he had a working weekend every now and then. Louise had no reason to distrust Tony and so she never gave it a second thought.

 

Monica was going to nice places. Tony was spending big money on her and he was totally addicted to her and the sex. He could not stop thinking about it. Monica opened up experiences to him that he had never had, sexually, before.

 

One evening he went to pick up Monica and she surprised him with the news she was pregnant.

 

He was too far into love addiction to get upset over the pregnancy

 

He mind was foggy. Thinking about how this was going to hurt Louise never even worried him. He went home, told her he was in love with another woman and packed a suitcase and left.

 

The day his divorce was final they flew to Las Vegas, Nevada and got married.

 

Monica, knowing the Tony would do anything for her began to use him immediately. He bought her an expensive car. Soon after he bought a million dollar home on several acres. It came complete with a swimming pool, horse stables and a guesthouse.

 

The baby was born and Tony was proudly showing him off to his buddies. He felt like a young stud as he saw looks of envy on the faces of his old friends.

 

Then, within a year, Tony noticed Monica pulling away from him a bit. To keep her happy he bought her anything she wanted. Tony had always been a saver. He had planned well for his future, but now between payments of alimony to Louise and buying expensive furniture, horses and trinkets to keep Monica with him, he was beginning to worry about finances for the first time since he graduated from college.

 

The end started for Tony when he arrived home early from a business trip to find Monica in bed with their pool boy. She convinced him she was sorry and it would never happen again. However, it did happen again and again until she fell in love with another man with even more money. She kicked Tony out of the house, got a high-powered divorce lawyer and took him to the cleaners financially and emotionally.

 

By the time Tony came for love addiction counseling he was truly a broken man. He had lost the love of his life, his first wife, his children had turned against him, and he had another child he would have to financially support well into his seventies.

 

Love addiction, like any other addiction, had destroyed Tony’s life. He backslid terribly and he was embarrassed to show his face at the church he and Louise had attended for years.

 

He was at rock bottom and living in an efficiency apartment.

 

Love addiction had taken a toll on his mind; he was overcome with guilt and depressed to the point of suicide. Through a lot of confession and repenting before the Lord, and several years of counseling, he was restored to fellowship with God. His relationship with his first family was never to be the same. Everyday was a constant battle to overcoming bitterness and regret.

 

The Avoidance Addict that Tony was involved in was very skilled at picking up weaknesses with men. She played him and destroyed him and in his mind, she won.